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As we get older, aren't we supposed to feel more put together?

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As we get older, aren't we supposed to feel more put together? I feel like I'm falling apart. I'm not sure the relationship I'm in is the right one.... so many mixed feelings on this. I cry at the drop of a hat lately. I feel disconnected, with everyone around me, with myself. The heaviness is so much, so all the time lately. I've always thought, "it's just a moment, I'll get through this". I've always been my own cheerleader.... the glass is half full.... no matter what, this too shall pass. This time..... my optimism isn't there. I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. I don't know how to navigate this? I feel broken. For the first time, I don't just feel wonky, but fixable. I feel broken beyond repair and I don't know how to cope with this. I smile because I have to, while I'm just dying inside. How do I fix this?
 
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Hi StJohn, I'm sorry you are finding it hard and can relate to the feeling of heaviness and it is a horrible feeling as though a cloud is over us 24/7 and it totally suck. Please don't feel broken as I use to be and always thought there is know chance for me, but there is a chance for us all and we have to really try even if we ask our GP or doctor to help. You have made the big start by joining here and others will soon be bye to help.
 
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As we get older, aren't we supposed to feel more put together? I feel like I'm falling apart. I'm not sure the relationship I'm in is the right one.... so many mixed feelings on this. I cry at the drop of a hat lately. I feel disconnected, with everyone around me, with myself. The heaviness is so much, so all the time lately. I've always thought, "it's just a moment, I'll get through this". I've always been my own cheerleader.... the glass is half full.... no matter what, this too shall pass. This time..... my optimism isn't there. I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. I don't know how to navigate this? I feel broken. For the first time, I don't just feel wonky, but fixable. I feel broken beyond repair and I don't know how to cope with this. I smile because I have to, while I'm just dying inside. How do I fix this?
Welcome to the forum. I’m glad you are here and thank you for sharing.
I’m sorry that things are difficult for you right now. Being amongst understanding and supportive people here really helps me. I hope you benefit from this too.
Have you spoken to a gp or counsellor about how you’re feeling? Please be gentle with yourself today. Feel proud of making a big step by posting here.
 
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I too seem to have hit a point where I can’t just soldier on. I mean, I do and I will but unlike the past where I had exactly the same problems as I do now, I could maybe bury them a bit better and feel better, if only temporarily. Whereas now I get little joy from anything, even things I used to love. And I can’t seem to get past it. Sex is impossible as I dont even want it…on the other hand I can’t stop looking at porn etc. But even that isn’t enjoyable more just a habit. I had a great job that I left for a worse one……even though I was perfectly happy in it. I really don’t know why I do what I do….I’m just sort of waiting to retire then curl up and wait. I honestly can’t seem to enjoy anything.
 
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