- Apr 8, 2020
I am the same! I fuck people i couldn't care less for, no emotional connection and stay with them even tho i didn't fall head over heels at first 2nd 3rd 250th sight, these are usually due to poor nutrition causing overwhelming mental health symptoms that even meds cannot treat... basically... if u dont intake enough iron u r too tired to love! If u dont intake enough magnesium u cannot make ur own serotonin (part of the ) hormones! Etc... symptoms can be lessened with proper self inspection baybaaay! Always laugh when u can!!! Never believe u arent special! I think u are! U may consider me love shy but im flesh and blood! I approach finding the same... if i meet someone and i dont feel crazy connection/attraction i will still give them a chance because i believe we r all as deep as an ocean and we all have bad days and we all deserve to be seen and loved on good days! If u choose to be this way... its very obviously internal! If u sit down and think about it for a while... do u hate everyone? Probably not! But do u have complex thought and emotions!!? Of course u do!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not a bad thing! U r as deep as an ocean! If those who are shallow cannot wade in those depths... they cannot swim and u r not attracted... very simple and its called "emotional intelligence" some are not you my friend are, MOST CERTAINLY!!! IF NOONE LIKES IT THEY CAN SWIM IN THE KIDDIE POOL!I recall seeing this term before, think it was associated with some infamous incel site or movement? Besides all that I'm sure it is a real condition. Maybe not that common, maybe it is a term used mostly for men? It just occurred to me today it could describe a lot of what I've experienced in the past. I've only had a couple of girlfriends in the past, neither were long term. On both those occasions I moved away for work. They were good, there was intimacy, I didn't have a problem with that. The women were sad to see me go, but I needed to find work elsewhere.
It has been a long time. I never got with anybody back in uni, not till I was over 30 actually. I've had plenty of chances, think I just let fears rule the day too often. Now I'm over 50, have a few regrets. Wondering if I'll ever have any sort of relationship again. I'm not unattractive, a bit quiet and reserved.
Well, I've been obsessing over past encounters from like eight years ago all the way back to 30 years ago, and that's no good. It's tiresome. But I have no social life these days, just stay in my room most of the time, get walks, no job. I'm not feeling desperate or anything. Just feel like this term "love shy" could help explain some issues I had in the past.