- May 21, 2010
Isn't this similar to passive-aggressive behaviour? What DO you do when you have needs but can't identify what you want or if you can, you don't know how to get it? I have definately been guilty of sulking in my time and of not being discreet about scars because I need someone to notice how bad I've been feeling. Now I'm far on in my therapy I've learned how to identify what I need and ask for it so I don't have to resort to this but I would never judge myself for it, I wasn't taught the skills. People who have the skills don't think twice about them, why would they? They dont understand how difficult it is without them and that leads them to believe that we do it on purpose, they cant imagine that we dont know what we are doing.