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Pearl8

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Okay so this is more regarding hocd/ bi ocd stuff, but I'm having a hard time dealing with bi ocd and all this happened because of taking something as oh what if its a sign and well now its messed me up. I keep having thoughts about being it and they feel so real like i don't mind it or something which makes me stressed but i don't get why they feel so real like I don't mind it..never in my 18 years of life have i had a crush on the same sex or thought about wanting to be with same sex before this came along but it upsets me how it seems like when these thoughts come that i wouldnt mind it.. someone please help I've been dealing with it too long that i can't fight anymore.
 
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Go to overcome's threat called it's up to you it has good advice
 
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id say it is your mind playing tricks on you. As it's something that you see as wrong, it's forcing you to think about it. Maybe try and accept the thoughts but don't act on them. The more you try to battle them the more you'll think about them.
 
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People can be curious without being gay. Women can appreciate women or parts of their body without being gay. Being gay is not just about sex.

I'm not gay. If I were, I could choose whether or not to be with a woman I assume. I am straight but choose to be single.

Don't worry about who you are just love who you are.

don't over think just be.
 
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Pearl,
You say you have never had a crush on a girl before but your thoughts are you wouldn't mind it.
So what are you saying,are you saying women's bodies turn you on and you could see yourself being in bed or a relationship with a woman?I think these are the kind of questions you need to ask yourself and explore.
It may be you are bisexual or just bicurious.I am going through similar,I have never been with a woman but I do get turned on by both men and women.It is up to us if we want to explore this and actually sleep with a woman.....I think I have been running away from both sexes because sex scares me but I am starting to feel I owe it to myself to explore this and start exploring having relationships with both sexes.What are we running away from,there is nothing wrong with same sex relationships or being bisexual.If you want to talk more and you don't want to post on public forum PM me and I can try to help you further.Nikitax
 
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Go to overcome's threat called it's up to you it has good advice
Can you please explain what you are saying here,It isn't clear,it is very confusing.
It sounds like you are recommending a website called what?Overcome's threat? It is up to you?
Doesn't make sense:rolleyes:
 
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Go to overcome's threat called it's up to you it has good advice
Can you please explain what you are saying here,It isn't clear,it is very confusing.
It sounds like you are recommending a website called what?Overcome's threat? It is up to you?
Doesn't make sense:rolleyes:
No i meant a thread on this website MHF called its up to you it looked like it had good asvice for people with OCD
 
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My phone keyboard is small, i therefore typed wrong and put threat instead of thread
 
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I had meant that these thoughts saying oh I don't mind it came after my anxiety died down since i keep worrying about it, obviously I know i'm not like that my point was that after dealing with it so long it bothers me how i started getting thoughts what if I'm not minding it anymore, not that I'm new to it and suddenly i know i don't mind it, if i didnt mind it i wouldnt be worried about it.. its just bothering me how after going through so much and fighting thoughts its like the back door spike is giving me thoughts like I want it or wouldnt mind it or something. Like my mind will start making up scenarios itself and try to tell me i like them.
 
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Pearl8

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Pearl,
You say you have never had a crush on a girl before but your thoughts are you wouldn't mind it.
So what are you saying,are you saying women's bodies turn you on and you could see yourself being in bed or a relationship with a woman?I think these are the kind of questions you need to ask yourself and explore.
It may be you are bisexual or just bicurious.I am going through similar,I have never been with a woman but I do get turned on by both men and women.It is up to us if we want to explore this and actually sleep with a woman.....I think I have been running away from both sexes because sex scares me but I am starting to feel I owe it to myself to explore this and start exploring having relationships with both sexes.What are we running away from,there is nothing wrong with same sex relationships or being bisexual.If you want to talk more and you don't want to post on public forum PM me and I can try to help you further.Nikitax
& I'm pretty sure i'm not, I realize my thing was worded incorrect but even after these thoughts I still have no attraction to the same sex and I just don't want to because It's not in my interest, my point was it sucks how it tries to make it feel so real, nothing against people who are though, just my preference, I was just asking on help on how to deal with these constant intrusive thoughts.
 
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It is an anxiety or a fear? OCD clearly, as you are posting here. Much like thinking of murdering somebody when you would never, ever do that. I am sure that this is common. We are telling ourselves that we would never do it. I have read about this or been told about this. It is OK to think about things we would not do, or fear to do.

Murder is a very different act than sex with a woman, clearly, but that was the only example i could think of.
 
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