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anyone out there that can relate? Family paedophile is dead

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azzza

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The family paedophile, who abused several generations of boys has died.
Many years ago one family member and several men who were not known to the family made statements to the police. It was in the early days of historic prosecutions and was thrown out by CPS who said that the abuser would have no defense
The family cast out the member who made the statement to police
Other boys admitted they were abused but family hushed it up
Paedophile owned a valuable house and had money
One of the younger family members is a drug addict and pathological liar. He is telling various stories about the abuser, some of which may be partly true, others may be fantasy.
Family are keeping up pretense that paedophile was a nice respectable member of society while refusing to have anything to do with any victims that have come forward

Anyone had similar experience? Anyone got any advice?
I have tried to simplify this down to bare bones because when I put all the detail in it confused the issue
 
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Hiya azzza, I think no more money should exchange hands with this man, IMO. Enough on that front. As for the rest, the uncle is the one who has done all this damage. I can't know what you are going through or your take on this all, but personally, I think keep away from the family if this is what they are doing. I know its hard, but from what you write here, you can't win and trying to get in with them again isn't necessarily a good idea for your, or your husband's, sake. God familes can get so nasty when money comes into the equation!

Your husband suffered enough, he doesn't need this.
 
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Calypso, you are so right, I'm sure "family" is a wonderful thing for some people but given my own experiences and having had contact with my husband's I am not convinced that "family" is such a good thing! My husband needs closure on the abuse he suffered and he is go ping that will come now, but the son and the stories and the lies make it so difficult. Thank you for your input
 
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