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Anyone have a fear of working?

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dontwakethedragon

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Yeah it's hard to really get anywhere in this world when you have a fear of holding down a job. I have been struggling with social and generalized anxiety since I was shot out of the womb and have managed to get a hold on it to a moderate degree. However, I have a serious fear of customer service jobs.

Right now I'm in a tough spot because I need to accumulate some money before heading back to college so I can put down a deposit on an apartment. I won't get my finacial aid fast enough to put towards my living space so getting a job is of serious importance.

Sadly the only things available are minimum wage slave jobs. I guess I should buck up or shut up and just deal with it, but I have really bad memories of working as a department store stocker when I was fresh out of high school. Pure hell. Mean managers, in a constant state of panic, not being able to figure out how to help customers find products in the store. Bleh. The only things I'm good at is tutoring other college students, writing and listening to people. I have BA is psychology but that doesn't help much in regards to my job situation. I wanted to work for a crisis prevention hotline, something I think I would be good at, but there is no monetary compensation and it's in a hard-to-reach geographic location (I have a driving phobia too, so it makes it hard to get to places).

Thinking of getting a job at a grocery store but terrified of working the cash register. I can just see myself bumbling around holding up the line and giving back the wrong amount of cash. Wish I could find an internet job.

Anyone else have difficulties working? How to you cope with crappy jobs?
 
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i've had a lot of similar challenges as you with different jobs ... i faced each one and got by but found that i walked out feeling much the same as i walked in...i hated that particular job...i guess what i did was tell myself why i was there...kept my eye on the prize so to speak....and also in each case i either knew it would not be forever or else when i had enough i walked out...

i remember needing a job and seeing postings for cashiers but feeling so sick that i did not think i could operate the machines or stay standing for that length of time...

feel for you...i'm currently not working but will have to go back in within the next two years...benefits is keeping me on a tight leash because they said that i am still young and have working years left...makes no difference that my doctor said that my condition is severe, debilitating and permanent...oh well...good luck
 
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Yeah I have a similar fear. The longest I have ever held down a paid job is one year.

It feels like if I were to work I need to be away from customers and have a simple job.

I have fear of handling money because I can't count it very fast or work out what to do when they want different change. Pressure feels really immense in those situations and people would just look at me like I’m an idiot. If a queue builds up it feels like even more pressure.

I also had the problem with not being able to figure out how to help customers. My memory is poor and I can't remember much about products or the locations for them. The customers sometimes seem demanding. A few times they complained to the manager about me for whatever reason. It was hellish.

I'm currently doing voluntary work, everyone who volunteers has some sort of mental health problem so its easier to relate to people and there is no real pressures. I can't do it forever unfortunately and will need to return back to work at some point.
 
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takeholdofthedream

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I have a fear about working, odd timing to see this post..woken by a nightmare of the same topic.

I have never lasted more than a short time in work a day to a couple of weeks, starts ok my engine burns quickly im rushing about and suddenly issues start to arise mentally burning me out really fast. Its hard to not be a fall guy if a higher up see's you have difficulties "money short in tills" multiple times odd when its precise but the duty sub manager always said its short but never when the store manager did it, but as paranoia is one of my traits gets overruled as im just being paranoid. 1st job ever had at 16 1st day on the job manager asked me to fight another employee.
I have social anxiety and panic attacks so im never ok with more than 2 or 3 people at once, personality disorders that randomly turn me violent or aggressive, no social skills to speak of and cant be trusted near sharp objects.

This is something I am afraid of, I have just been sent letter that says I will have to attend another assessment for ability to work.
 
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I have the exact same fears. I love hospitality and landed a job in a hotel in the banquets department when I was 18 and loved it because not only did I get to do what I loved but because we worked with functions it was all pre-paid events so we hardly had to deal with money which worked perfect for me. There were occasions where we had cash bars (meaning the guests come up to the bar and pay for their drinks on the spot) but it was usually males who worked the bar never females (which I am) so I was lucky enough to get out of dealing with it. After 3 years of being there I got promoted and became a supervisor which again worked well for me because anytime money was used, I would just get my staff to deal with it. Eventually I was getting treated rather badly by management as in working 20 hrs with no break and lots of illegal things so I had to leave and get out of there having given them a total of seven years service. Leaving was very hard for me as I knew it meant me leaving my comfort zone and having to find a new job. When I have tried to deal with my fear and the very few times I have tried working the till I have failed and I have become very stressed, panicked and I messed up the change most of the time and found it to be a very horrible experience for me. Well its been a few months now and I just can't find a job I want to apply for because I know it involves dealing with money and whats sad is that I love the hospitality industry, I was actually pretty good at liaising with guests and clients (when money was not a factor) so I need to overcome this fear somehow but I just cant get the courage to even try working a till again. I need a job desperately and this fear is just ruing my life even when I go to buy something I count the money in my hand numerous times all the way up to approaching the counter because I panic that I don't have enough or have counted it wrong. I completely understand these fears and I wish to overcome mine too somehow.
 
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Fear of Work

For me it isn't just holding a paying job or handling money. I make myself very unhappy procrastinating and have done so all my life but I still DO IT. This includes housework, exercise, moving, etc. I just get terrified and then distract myself. It has screwed up my life no end. My problems with handling money, especially under pressure, are legendary.
Have any of you been diagnosed with dyslexic problems like dyscalculia or dysgraphia? I can't find anyplace to test me but I have a history of various and ridiculous mental problems that do not line up with my intelligent mind. It's been a vicious circle - I repeatedly have trouble doing things everyone else takes for granted and after a time I expect to have issues when I'm in that situation and it brings on panic attacks so...now I don't have a job, I don't drive, I don't leave messages on phones, etc. HELP!
 
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Hi LetaBez, :welcome: to the forum,

I think procrastination can be associated with anxiety and also depression. I am a terrible procrastinator and it's a combination of both for me - sometimes it's because I'm too scared to do something, eg make a phone call, and other times it's because I just can't see the point or have no energy and can't be bothered.

It sounds like for you anxiety might be more of an issue? Does making lists help at all?

I've never been diagnosed with dyscalcula but I do wonder if I have it, since my otherwise normal IQ but I am terrible with maths, had to have extra maths tuition at school etc and have always felt very stupid about it.

I think you can get tested by a psychologist, as it could count as a disability and they might take it into account if you do get a job, also they might be able to help you with ways to cope with it. You might have to pay to have a private test if they won't do it on the NHS.

I am scared of working too, I think it is a common fear for those of us who have problems and lack confidence in our abilities both to do the job and to cope with the working environment.

I hope you find the forum helpful. Just realised this is a very old thread, if you wanted to start one of your own, you just go to the section you want to post in and click "post new thread".

If you'd like to do an introduction, just so people know you are new and can say hi, it's here:

http://www.mentalhealthforum.net/forum/forum40.html

xx
 
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I am so glad im not alone. People think im just lazy. I have held a job. My fear is looking for a job, doing the interview n workin wit people i dont know n messing up and not doing the job right
 
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I'm terrified of work, that's why I'm so desperate to win my appeal against the DWP who stopped my ESA.
 
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I'm terrified of work, that's why I'm so desperate to win my appeal against the DWP who stopped my ESA.
I'm the same English Rose. Every time I've held down a job for a few months I've ended up having a massive nervous breakdown. It makes me way too anxious to face the prospect of working again. I just get really stressed and when I get stressed my hallucinations and delusions start (I have schizoaffective disorder). I'm currently on ESA but the axe is always poised to fall - it just makes me feel so insecure. I just can't relax knowing I may need to be reassessed shortly.
 
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When I've worked (way back in the past) I've always been sacked for being useless or I've left because it's unbearable.
 
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I used to have a good job in a university, but when I developed schizoaffective disorder I had to go on extended sick leave. I fully intended to go back, but on the day I had chosen to return I was just unable to leave the house. In the end I had to take early retirement.

Later, when I judged myself to be feeling a bit better, I started working at a MIND charity shop. I found I could work the till, because it told you exactly how much change to give. I liked it on the till because you got to meet people - better than working in a pokey back room steaming clothes.

My last job was working in the Oxfam Bookshop - my dream job. However I got disciplined for reading when I should have been looking out for people stealing books. As I hadn't got over the anxiety caused by my illness I decided to call it a day.
 
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i fear working too

last job i had i ended up with psychosis

believed co workers came to my house and raped me

took 6 months to recover from psychosis kind of longer really

and now 2 yeaars later have other mental health issues

scared to work now

fear it
 
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I do one afternoon per week voluntary work in an animal rescue centre, I've been doing it for over 4 years, I work with cats & it's been especially beneficial to me since my own cat died (ie to have some 'cat contact'), but I couldn't manage more than one afternoon per week. It's a long time since I worked & I had some bad experiences working - like once when I was humiliated by a colleague & others found it hilarious, it was down to me being slow (and I've got slower as I've got older). For many years I was OK & not being harassed, then IDS took over at the DWP.....
 
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I have had this problem since my very first job. I remember being so anxious and wanting to flee. I may have lasted a couple of months. In the last 6 months I have had 4 jobs the last I panicked and left after 2 hours. Fast forward to age 42 I have probably had a couple hundred jobs, I really Need help. I can't live without money I have only survived with help from family and friends. I am dead broke and feel desperate for help. What can I do? Anywhere I can turn?
 
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