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Anyone else tired of hearing 'can you try a different medication?' 'can you go for a walk?' etc - ugh

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Anyone else tired of these useless comments from family or friends? Obviously if there was a magic pill, or if there was an easy solution to make me well I would do anything or take anything. Ugh
 
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im sick of hearing "baby steps". im still no closer to resolving the problems that have been caused through my last psychotic episode. I cant talk to my mum coz shes 76 and dosent understand and just says to try harder, Everybody thinks I still have my life just because im actually still breathing.
 
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im sick of hearing "baby steps". im still no closer to resolving the problems that have been caused through my last psychotic episode. I cant talk to my mum coz shes 76 and dosent understand and just says to try harder, Everybody thinks I still have my life just because im actually still breathing.
Hugs to you. My father else elderly and is not from this country and I remember during my worse depression he was trying to help and said 'you're weak but I know you're trying' and I wanted to scream, and shake him and say I'm not weak...in fact anyone who suffers from this pain is stronger than anyone on the planet - cuz it's absolute hell on earth!
 
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I agree with you, its draining trying to explain to people who have never been through it. If there was a magic pill, I'd be queuing up to take it as you said. I tried therapy and that helped but getting a good therapist is really hard.
 
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another one is "wait for the medication to get in your system"...erm, Ive been on it now 3 months. meds will not deal with the system that I have found myself caught in, or get my drivers licence back...meds only help me sleep.
 
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I agree with you, its draining trying to explain to people who have never been through it. If there was a magic pill, I'd be queuing up to take it as you said. I tried therapy and that helped but getting a good therapist is really hard.
Agreed...I have had a couple of good therapists, but nothing helps when I am in the throes of the deep depression, they can't solve my problems so the depression continues, at least for me...and I have to figure out the right small changes to make to finally get out of it. Ugh
 
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another one is "wait for the medication to get in your system"...erm, Ive been on it now 3 months. meds will not deal with the system that I have found myself caught in, or get my drivers licence back...meds only help me sleep.
Yep...agreed. Heard that one too from someone who doesn't understand, 'you didn't take the medication for long enough' so frustrating.
 
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its more professionals that bother me ,with things like 'have a cup of tea' or try and distract-its not always that easy to switch your thoughts off but im sure you will find great support here x
love Lu xxx
 
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its more professionals that bother me ,with things like 'have a cup of tea' or try and distract-its not always that easy to switch your thoughts off but im sure you will find great support here x
love Lu xxx
I probably would not use my time or funds on any professional that said having tea ugh, cuz they clearly don't get it...but for some who are better off with their mental than I am right now I guess it's a good reminder to calm oneself, try to relax with tea etc 😊
 
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im sick of hearing "baby steps". im still no closer to resolving the problems that have been caused through my last psychotic episode. I cant talk to my mum coz shes 76 and dosent understand and just says to try harder, Everybody thinks I still have my life just because im actually still breathing.
Same. No one really cares as long as I'm still breathing. It doesn't matter how painful it is.
 
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Actually, I also really hate the "things will get better". The pain and actions, good or bad, are in the present. Talking about the future just seems dismissive to me.
 
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Yknow I hear from the doctors therapists and apparent specialists.
"Lets try a new medication" to which the answer is no because I give up.
then "try do some more exercise." gave that a go thanks!
"try this therapy" How. I cannot get out of the house.
the one though that pisses me off the most is one I have had many times especially from crisis teams which is "What do you want us to do" Like dip shit I am talking to you because i don't know!
 
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In those deep dark moments when I am fighting my hardest just to want to breath, those kind words, feeble attempts to try and soothe me, left me up and make me feel better, piss me off. "Are you off your meds?" That one is just painful. How dare they make any effort to help me. Don't they know how hard it is in my brain?

The answer is, they don't. They are as confused and lost in trying to make sense of this senseless disease as we are.

We all know the truth, there is nothing they can say. There are no comments, no motivational statement and no wise words that will stop the bleeding.

Our family and friends are at least trying. I'm personally glad they don't understand and hope they never do. I would not want them to go through this too.

As for therapists, counselors, and doctors they should be ashamed of themselves. Taking money for their clueless and ignorant attempts to help us.

Don't stop going to them, because they are better than nothing and eventually you will find one with a clue. He/she will say something that makes sense or gives you a new weapon to use in your fight.

The kind words are better than, your mum saying, "I hope you cry all day and the depression just kicks your a**. You little cray baby." Or your best friend saying, "You look a bit depressed today. Let's take a walk across a bridge and see what you do that."

What are they supposed to say?

I guess I'm glad they said something no matter how much it pissed me off.
 
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it's annoying but it works. i was feeling extremely depressed last week and a doctor suggested i go for a walk. i went for a walk and i actually felt much better.
 
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I got sick of one of my psychiatrists constantly saying
”It’s all up to you. Only you can do it”

She was a prat about a lot of other things too.
 
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