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Anyone else responded well after being treated badly in a group

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azzza

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My area gives more funding to groups run by volunteers than it seems to on therapy. I went to a group and to seminars run by the HA about mental health. I have PTSD and have had anxiety for a while too. At the seminar a volunteer who runs the PTSD group but is only interested in military cases told everyone that everyone with it is addicted to drink and drugs and he knows how we feel. I'm not addicted but he wasn't interested at all. At the group the volunteers were all just doing it for the very generous expenses. They were all experts on the money they could claim to top up their benefits. The bullying in the group was horrendous and as a wheelchair user I got the brunt of it.
One day they told us we were there till 4pm and my carer arranged to pick me up then but the volunteers then decided to pack up at 1pm and I was parked outside at the bottom of a gravelled up hill drive and left there in the rain. After that I thought I had to regain control over my life and I started looking for a way forward.
The group didn't like any talk of returning to work but after another couple of sessions that were horrible, the volunteers told so many lies when the funders came, yet no one dared to say anything. So I found voluntary work in the local library and left the group. I then decided to start looking for work and although I am still seeking work I do plan to get in the workplace and I look back at being bullied in that mental health group as the starting point to a new beginning.
I am still suffering from my ailments but I am less scared of the future. I don't wake up terrified of what will happen in the future nearly as often. I know that the way I was treated could have killed some people but it made me angry enough to spur me on and frightened enough of the treatment to help myself.
 
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Nicola398

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Hello azza,Yeah me too, I have attended and left a lot of mental health groups because of bullying. i got very down about it and the first breakdown and mental illness I had was during first year of university when I was bullied terrible and bullied over my sexuality, someone decided to make a big deal over me still being a virgin and I was made to feel defective because i wasn't having sex. It followed me for a long time with one doctor years ago when I had menstrual problems saying my vagina had packed up from lack of use.
I felt really ashamed and embarrassed.I got over it and eventually saw all these people for the vicious bullies there were,still are for all I know.I make it a point to go out there and keep doing what I need to do, I am assertive now and stick up for myself, nipping any comments or bullying in the bud before it gets serious.I am much less sensitive than I used to be and just let comments bounce of me as if I am made of teflon.Good on you for being spurred on to help yourself.It is frightening to have such treatment by bullies
acted out on you.I still get knocked down by some of my memories and past wounds but I get straight back up again and shrug them off.I wish you every success and happiness.NicolaX
 
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azzza

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Thanks Nicolas, it makes me feel better to know someone else found the same with groups. These so called volunteers get away with it because they just claim you ate having a relapse if you say anything after all its official that all the user's are may! LOL. I stay motivated because I really am determined never to finish up back there again.
 
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Nicola398

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Azza,

Jhttp://www.mirror.co.uk/news/world-news/edmond-aviv-judge-orders-man-3411200

Just found this in the paper, we need judges like that one here in England and the rest of the UK.

Way to go!
 
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