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Anyone else hate BPD?

soulsearcher

soulsearcher

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No, you regroup and get help, whether through therapy or friends.

We have all been taken out at the knees at various points in our lives. It can feel impossible to get back up. But you must.

We are operating with a tremendous handicap.

Imagine what we can accomplish with it gone.

Don’t let it define you. You are more than just your latest meltdown.

Get. Back. Up.
You make good point and it's a daily struggle fighting yourself everyday, it takes a toll on you
 
Flameheart

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i mean its a mental health forum, not sure what people expect
 
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What I have learnt:

"BPD" is nothing, in reality, it describes a kind of person with certain kinds of experiences.

What type of a person has "BPD?"
Well , the kind who didn't get taught things properly and wasn't brought up in an environment conducive to being tough enough to survive the world.

You must find a therapist that works for you. Not some type of therapy where you have to unpick all the wounds, but a constructive type - which gives you the TOOLS you did not get growing up, teaches you the stuff your parents should have taught you. Do CAT, or DBT. Read. Talk to people. Learn shit. Move around. Change scene, and do your therapy above all.

"BPD" is a lie in the brain, because it gives you the impression nothing will ever change. Your brain convinces you that the extreme emotional pain, is ever-present, and it is like a dog chasing it's tail, somehow it just never seems to go away.

However, you CAN change the neural pathways in your brain. Right now your brain is functioning one way, you are wired one way, but you can learn to make it different, make your thought patterns different. Over time, you can re-wire your brain.
 
Lunus

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What I have learnt:

"BPD" is nothing, in reality, it describes a kind of person with certain kinds of experiences.

What type of a person has "BPD?"
Well , the kind who didn't get taught things properly and wasn't brought up in an environment conducive to being tough enough to survive the world.

You must find a therapist that works for you. Not some type of therapy where you have to unpick all the wounds, but a constructive type - which gives you the TOOLS you did not get growing up, teaches you the stuff your parents should have taught you. Do CAT, or DBT. Read. Talk to people. Learn shit. Move around. Change scene, and do your therapy above all.

"BPD" is a lie in the brain, because it gives you the impression nothing will ever change. Your brain convinces you that the extreme emotional pain, is ever-present, and it is like a dog chasing it's tail, somehow it just never seems to go away.

However, you CAN change the neural pathways in your brain. Right now your brain is functioning one way, you are wired one way, but you can learn to make it different, make your thought patterns different. Over time, you can re-wire your brain.
You can indeed. 😁
 
soulsearcher

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Saw my pdoc today and he's like I'll always feel suicidal because of my BPD,
It's just a trait of having a personality disorder

I'm just glad I've got a good pdoc

Just hate having BPD just leaves me feeling so cofused
 
Lunus

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Saw my pdoc today and he's like I'll always feel suicidal because of my BPD,
It's just a trait of having a personality disorder

I'm just glad I've got a good pdoc

Just hate having BPD just leaves me feeling so cofused
I don’t agree with him saying that at all.
 
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