anyone else do this?

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Would there be a reason for me to be convincing myself (1) my bf doesn’t like me/ hates me and (2) I don’t care anyway?

Because I don’t think either is true but I don’t like thinking so negatively all the time and it’s weird. Is it justified?
 
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Ohhh. So like at the very least I shouldn’t feel super guilty about it I guess.

Are there techniques to overcome splitting specifically?
 
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i do it with my fp as well, i idolise him then ill have a phase where i hate him and think he has bad intentions, i guess it surfaces our deepest insecurities about the relationship

i don't know what advice to give, but maybe this video can help you and also know in detail what it is

 
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Awesome. Thank you.
 
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Thabk you BP Devil.
THIS is SO me.
Wow. We really are our own breed.
 
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Thabk you BP Devil.
THIS is SO me.
Wow. We really are our own breed.
Hahah. That made me laugh. I know. It’s like frustrating when other people don’t think I make any sense and it’s like yeah logically I see that but this is still happening in my head.
 
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my girlfriend does this, don’t feel bad as you can’t help it and try to talk about how you’re feeling to your boyfriend so he can give you some reassurance, i try to let my girlfriend know that she doesn’t have to feel bad for asking for help/confirmation of my feelings.
 
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That’s so sweet of you! Sometimes my bf takes the “do I not show you enough love?” Or “that’s concerning that you don’t know by now” route. I wind up feeling guilty.
 
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Would there be a reason for me to be convincing myself (1) my bf doesn’t like me/ hates me and (2) I don’t care anyway?

Because I don’t think either is true but I don’t like thinking so negatively all the time and it’s weird. Is it justified?
ALL the TIME!! It creates such frantic chaos in me and when I read a book years ago about BPD it really struck a chord with me. Now that I’m aging I forgot and reading about this has been so helpful so Thank You for asking !
 
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That’s so sweet of you! Sometimes my bf takes the “do I not show you enough love?” Or “that’s concerning that you don’t know by now” route. I wind up feeling guilty.
it sounds like he still doesn’t totally understand how your disorder can cause a lot of insecurities and need for extra assurances, maybe try to explain that further with him :( i’m sure he’ll try to understand better
 
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For sure ☺ He’s very loving but he’s kinda stubborn too. I’m learning to not jump to negative conclusions with him but it’s quite the steep learning curve lol.
 
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Would there be a reason for me to be convincing myself (1) my bf doesn’t like me/ hates me and (2) I don’t care anyway?

Because I don’t think either is true but I don’t like thinking so negatively all the time and it’s weird. Is it justified?
 

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