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scooby1001

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I am sorry for all the problems you are having with your daughter. You need to sit her down and tell her your worries explaining that if she wants her son back she needs to step up to the plate and do the right thing. As for the tennency with her husband if she is going to be having the child back with her and he is only have the child part-time then she should move back into the mariartal home and look into having him move out. I think it would be a big mistake for you to spend so much money on a private let when she is not helping herself especially as it is her that would be intitled to stay in the home and not her husband. Can she move in with you for a while, while she is getting better and you can help her build up her relationship with her son under your guildance, at least that way you will be able to have a bit more control.
 
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Hiya Folks, sorry Iv'e not replied any earlier. We visited my daughter in the hospital, just after my last post, and made it very clear, if she helped herself, we would help her... If she chose another route we would withdraw support and go for Residency of our grandson... Wow it had the effect we hoped, she hasn't been in a pub since ( don't think she is dependant, just trying to deal with things the wrong way)and the new man friend was kicked into touch immediately.
So we went ahead with the rental, and I can see daily improvements. The only thing we have to sort now is benefits, as her husband is refusing to pay her anything, ( he's hoping she will go back to him...... I hope she wont) Iv'e helped her with the housing forms... does anyone know what else she will be eligible for? Thanks so much .... you lot really have been a godsend over the last few months..I'm sure we're not out of the woods yet........... but at last I can see a clearing.
 
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Hi Merlin.
If you dont mind me asking,how do you know your daughter's boyfriend is a heroin addict?
 
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schizolanza

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Cancel that.It doesn't really matter as he's not involved anymore.
I hope everything works out well for you,your daughter and your Grandson.
 
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Hi Merlin.
If you dont mind me asking,how do you know your daughter's boyfriend is a heroin addict?
Hi Olanza, he wasn't a boyfriend as such, someone she met while she was in a local unit, recovering from a long pyhscotic episode.... I had no real evidence, just a tip off from a very helpful "boy in blue" she only saw him two or three times, but as she was being rather extravagant with what was left of her grandad's inheritence......(And i'm a cynical old woman!!!)
 
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Basically claim for whatever she can - Housing Benefit, Council Tax Benefit, ESA is she's not deemed fit to work, JSA if she is. The CAB may help with a list of benefits and advice.
 
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My god......... these benefits are a minefield to sort out!!! I was stressed to the hilt, never mind my girl.......I thought ... stupidly... there would be a nice little office somewhere, where we would explain the situation to a nice man in a suit.... who understood about bi polar... fill the forms in... and her money would be quick in coming!!! And her housing benefit sorted at the same time..


What actually happened was ..... we were passed from pillar to post, had to fill in countless forms in countless offices, and saw countless twits in each one.......... ARGH!!!! Some clueless 12yr old angered me that much, condescending little fart, that I ended up putting in a formal complaint... How ever do they expect people with MH problems to go through that?
 
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merlin. sorry you are having problems with claiming benefits. Are you trying to claim for your or your daughter?

I still claim for my daughter even though she is with my parents and i just pass the money over each week when i get it to save all the hassle.

I hope your daughter is out of hospital soon.
 
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Merlin

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merlin. sorry you are having problems with claiming benefits. Are you trying to claim for your or your daughter?

I still claim for my daughter even though she is with my parents and i just pass the money over each week when i get it to save all the hassle.

I hope your daughter is out of hospital soon.
Sorry .. should have explained properly, my daughter has been discharged, and I was trying to help her sort out her benefits.
 
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Gosh you lot must think I'm incredibly stupid, I'm always on here for help.....
My girl has been prescribed Sodium valporate as a mood stabilizer and Quetipine as an anti physcotic, we were told by the hospital phyc that she would gradually reduce the Quetipine but remain on the Sodium Valporate for life.
Now a Community Dr has come in and left the Quetipine but reduced the Sodium Valporate, Does Quetipine cause weight gain? I know Sodium valporate does.
 
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