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Anxious about changing jobs

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I agreed to switch to another shop so I feel a bit anxious about the change has anybody got any tips?
 
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What about the change is making you anxious?
 
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I'm about to change jobs. Do I feel anxious? Definitely. What I'm I worried about? Not knowing what I'm doing. I keep telling myself that my previous experience means there won't be anything I can't cope with. They wouldn't have offered me the job if they didn't think I was up to it.
 
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I'm about to change jobs. Do I feel anxious? Definitely. What I'm I worried about? Not knowing what I'm doing. I keep telling myself that my previous experience means there won't be anything I can't cope with. They wouldn't have offered me the job if they didn't think I was up to it.
Congrats on getting a job offer @hicks ! I really hope you will succeed in your new job!
 
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Thank you very much! I am looking forward to it. New year, new chapter.
Take care!
Definitely, we all need a new start sometimes. For whatever reason we find ourselves in situations which are bad for us. It takes true bravery to make a change because just accepting things as they are is somehow easier. May I ask why you are changing jobs?
 
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Definitely, we all need a new start sometimes. For whatever reason we find ourselves in situations which are bad for us. It takes true bravery to make a change because just accepting things as they are is somehow easier. May I ask why you are changing jobs?
Thanks for asking. As is common with these things, no one reason, a combination of factors. Changing jobs always freaks me out, and causes me massive anxiety. It's almost like a leap of faith, because until you get through that door, you're never sure exactly what it will be like.
One reason for changing is a location move, to put my daughter in a better position for attending University, while living at home. Another reason is to get involved with more interesting and up to date work. It's also more money, which is always welcome.
One rule I always apply is, if I'm not happy in a job, I look around for something else. Even though I detest the whole process of job searching/interviewing etc, I will do it if necessary. This job has taken a good 12 months to find, after loads of time wasting interviews.
 
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Thanks for asking. As is common with these things, no one reason, a combination of factors. Changing jobs always freaks me out, and causes me massive anxiety. It's almost like a leap of faith, because until you get through that door, you're never sure exactly what it will be like.
One reason for changing is a location move, to put my daughter in a better position for attending University, while living at home. Another reason is to get involved with more interesting and up to date work. It's also more money, which is always welcome.
One rule I always apply is, if I'm not happy in a job, I look around for something else. Even though I detest the whole process of job searching/interviewing etc, I will do it if necessary. This job has taken a good 12 months to find, after loads of time wasting interviews.
I admire you because you are going on many interviews despite having so much anxiety. I also wish I could find the strength to look for more jobs but I am just exhausted applying for this one temp job. If I get rejected from one job it would probably be even more than I can handle right now.

People like us know how hard 'regular stuff' like interviews can be while normal folks shrug it off. Having a child must give you a lot of strength?

I also appreciate that you have maintained a common sense/intelligence despite the anxiety, it can easily be lost having mental health problems. Having just one person you love and who loves you can mean all the difference. I am truly blessed for having just that one person who really cares about me.
 
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I got through my first day but feel my first week will be better as by then I will have met everybody. And you are correct you can become very comfortable with the job I did my previous role for 4 years and I felt I needed a change. Change is scary though and I have felt anxiety about the change. Perhaps even after a few weeks the anxiety will settle?
 
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So I took the job transfer as said a week or two ago closer to home so seems good move but I’m having doubts and regrets already as I have to work later and also my days off are no longer set days or days together. I’m finding it hard to adjust to the new surroundings I mean the goal was to beat the anxiety but have I made a mistake? Should I have stayed in my comfort zone? Sure there is some positives of the job like less till work but I am feeling down and anxious about the change. Every time I move I feel this way but I worry I should have stayed put? Perhaps this inner desire to push for goals and want more and more isn’t the best thing as I find being content a difficult skill?
 
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I’m already having regrets and wish I could go back to my old job. The reality is it’s unlikely I can just switch back..
 
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So first week or two I had some early finishes and this week but it’s retail and now it’s all late finishes for Xmas my worry is I will be permanently on late shifts so this is causing me anxiety? I checked with the manager and he reassured me I wouldn’t do lates every night but he doesn’t so the rotas the assistant manager does.
 
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I still don’t feel happy I moved jobs I still feel anxious about it and im annoyed my days off are no longer together and also I have to work many late shifts what can I do? I can’t exactly reverse my choice?
 
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Sorry to hear that. Maybe you can talk to the manager who does the rota and explain that you're happy to do some late shifts, but not too many?
 
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Sorry to hear that. Maybe you can talk to the manager who does the rota and explain that you're happy to do some late shifts, but not too many?
Yes I mentioned I had lots of late shifts and he said I would still do earlier shifts but it’s the assistant manager who does the rota so I have to wait and see. Perhaps once I’ve been there longer I will have a better idea of shifts?
 
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