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Anxiety when woken by others, then going back to bed

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Wake Me Up

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I'm looking to find out if anyone else has gone through something similar, what they do for it (if any) and if there is a term or name for this other than anxiety.

I don't ask others to wake me up unless I feel that I might hit the snooze button 50 times. I will clearly ask "Hey, can you check on me about 9:10 am and see if I'm awake? Maybe give me a nudge out of bed?" and said person will generally agree. I set my alarm to the time on our phones, no problem.
So why us it that almost every time I ask for help (it's not often), I get woken up BEFORE the alarm goes off?
Most of the time I don't want help, I don't ask for it. I have said over and over again, if I want help I will ask for it. I say it calmly and politely, not passive-aggressive.
This morning I had my alarm set and 2 minutes before it goes off I get shouted at from the other side of the door. This person has a voice that carries, on top of that their voice was loud. I'm startled and have a crabby tone with the person.
Yes it was nice that they were thinking of me, at the same time my anxiety level just rose and I wanted to go back to sleep...and that's just what I did.
My alarm goes off, I hit snooze about 50 times. So of course I'm late, so late that I don't make my appointment and I'm still forced to make a hefty copayment, oh well! Now I'm waiting to find out if they will even see me at all.
The last time I could not make it, I called 2 days in advance to tell them that I'm sick. The receptionist could tell that I was sick and she showed empathy. Their policy is to call 24 hours ahead of time. Apparently even when you are sick and call ahead of time it still counts as a missed appointment, not a cancelled one.
Back to the sleeping part, to put it shortly.
I sorta go on some auto-pilot where if someone fucking disturbs my sleep then I subconsciously want to stay in bed longer to compensate for being interrupted (unless it's for a good reason) and then that ducks me over.
Have you ever been through this? If yes, what is your experience like? Is there a name or term for it?

All I can do is keep telling the person the same thing, that I only want help when I'm asking for it (unless it's something obvious like breaking a leg or if we were in harms way)
I'm ready to buy a voice altering microphone, say in a deep and ominous tone "WHO DARES DISTURB MY SLUMBER?" just to shake them back.
(I won't do this, it's just a funny thought.)

Sorry about the messy writing, I didn't get enough hours of sleep last night. I was up late with racing thoughts.
 
SunnyDaze

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Hi there. I wanted to bump this thread up.Hopefully someone will come along and respond

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Wake Me Up

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Thank you, and I hope so too. I came on here to see if I could delete it but I'm starting to feel a little hopeful about this, thank you again.
Hugs!
 
Confusedandanxious

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I'm not the same, but I did have issues with waking up for a long time and often felt robbed of sleep if I was woken too soon.

What I had to do was stop asking others to help me wake up. I could set my alarm for say 9, and tell others if I'm not up by half past then wake me.
My alarm then became an annoyance if I heard it because I knew I would be woken again at 9.30.

Having my wake up my responsibility was hard at first, but eventually realising that it was all on me kind of made me extra aware of my alarm (I could just sleep through it). Many snoozes that made me late for things eventually made me wake up instantly from my alarm.

I had no alarm this morning because I didnt need to get up. I woke up 10 minutes after my usual alarm time in a panic thinking I was going to be late.
 
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indigo6

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I have to watch my sleep/quality of it. It is a source, trigger (Ive posted about it before) If I am woken often, disturbed by noise the anxiety is like the kracken let loose.
Recently had a 14 hour day was very tired, fell into a nice natural early sleep with tv on mute. I was asleep before 9pm, I got like half an hour of sleep when woken by btard neighbour drilling and hammering on my bedroom/party wall ended up as wall a 3 minute job. I awoke scared and started to whimper. The ensuing anxiety invaded my head for a few hours. I was sickly and panicky.
 
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