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Anxiety starting to build up again - not sure why.

SaitenMar

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In the past two days I've started to notice my mind wondering, chest tightening and signs of unrest... oh and shooting straight up from deep sleep in the middle of the night. These are usually signs of anxiety and worry for me, and I know of some factors that might be causing them but its only when life's troubles have been more stressful that I get these. I feel out of place, lost and find myself just trying to keep myself occupied with normal life stuff.

The weird thing is, there have been times since I really noticed how bad the worry and anxiety gets for me that I've been confident and... yes, even happy. Trouble is I still live by the belief that I don't deserve to be happy and satisfied with life and who I am. For years now I've lived life with the view that if something good happens to me, something bad will inevitable follow, I don't even know where I picked up this way of thinking. This means that when I'm feeling good, all I can think about is how bad things are going to get and that just brings me down. :yuck:

Today its been really noticeable. Chest as felt tight all day and felt like I was suffocating this morning, I don't usually even get that bad in anxious situations. Still trying to combat my ways of thinking, but worried things might be getting a bit worse. All this and I keep thinking something bad is going to happen to me this week... hopefully this will pass.

Oh mind, you so crazy! :curseyou:
 
black rose

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Heya,

Is there any tricks you've learnt about trying to control your anxiety? I've been told of some which haven't personally worked for me, but have worked for many people I've encountered. Some people use to count to 20 method to try and control the breathing and lessen the panic, and others try to envision a positive outcome to their fears and worries in an effort to lower the anxiety and feel calmer? You may have already heard of those, and I'm sure other people have much better suggestions than mine, but I just wanted to offer you my limited ideas in a hope to help.

I'm sorry you're feeling so anxious at the moment. Your way of thinking that if something good happens to you, something bad will happen too, and that you don't deserve to have good things happen to you isn't a great mindset to have (I'm sure you already know that lol) but maybe you could think about therapy if you're not already partaking in it, so you can explore these thoughts and self beliefs and get to the bottom of them? I feel the same way about myself, and have not yet embarked on therapy, but I know that it has literally transformed the lives of others and helped them really move on.

Just an idea anyway
Hugs :)
 
SaitenMar

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Thanks black rose.

Have tried a few techniques over the past year. Some work, some haven't. Usually I rely on belly breathing, which as had a positive outcome in the past and helped to a slight degree today. Even attempted self-hypnosis in the past with varied results. It's my way of thinking that's the real issue here, I know that. Coping techniques help with anxiety/panic attacks but they won't stop the way my thought process works. That's something I'm still working on.

Had a small amount of therapy about two years ago, which had some positive results but not the success I would have hoped. Though that was as much my fault, found it difficult to speak openly about stuff. Keep thinking I will be able to cope with this on my own, and maybe I will be able to. Have to keep trying and see.

Have a similar form of the count to twenty technique in which I go through the alphabet and name an object after each letter. It's a game you might be familiar with, but actually helped move my mind away from the panicked thoughts. Guess it works like the technique where you stop and concentrate your mind on the present moment by studying what's around you.

Again, thanks black rose. Appreciated. :)
 
black rose

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No, anxiety is not a matter of life or death, but it is scary and frightening and something that is not very nice to experience.

Saiten, I'm glad to hear that your belly breathing helped even a little bit today, and that you thought to try that technique while you were feeling such anxiety.

As for your thought process, you're right, breathing techniques won't change that, which is why I suggested therapy. I do understand that you feel reluctant to try therapy again, and I get why, but maybe it might be worth a shot? Feeling uncomfortable talking about things can be worked on as well, you don't have to try and muddle through everything on your own.

Anyway, I hope you're feeling better at the moment :)
 
black rose

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Understood, however I was talking in response to the posters anxiety issues, not anxiety in general.

Saiten, I hope you're having a better day today :)
 
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