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Anxiety, panic attacks due to noise sensitivity.

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JasonCM

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Hi. I have recently joined this forum and have been reading through various thread with interest.

I wonder if anyone has similar experiences to me or can off practical help for my situation.

Basically I have become more and more sensitive to noise, mostly base music beats, but also just music in general or the sound of a TV, but the base beat is the worst for me and when I hear it I will now almost instantly get into a panic mode, feel like crying and running away like I am scared of something, and when I can't get away ASAP I get really frustrated, shaking and angry up in an irrational way. It makes me feel physically sick, weak and dizzy also.

I know it sounds totally stupid and I don't really understand what is happening to me, but need help now as its got worse over the last few years to the point its affecting my life badly, for example, I will often leave the house for hours at a time just to get away from the noise.

Backstory is I have always been irritated by these noises before, even as a child. But it just aggravated me a bit. Now its much more serious reaction.

The thing that made it worse was when I moved into a new house. Next door was a temple which one year installed loud speakers all around it. It got a new monk and he decided he was going to blast out music at 5.30 am several times a week. This music was really loud, windows in the house vibrated, we were woken from our sleep with a start, frightened like it was an earthquake. The music could last several hours, then come on and off randomly during the day. No one here would complain because it is not religious correct to do so (I live in Thailand).

I was always on edge, because the slightest noise of music would make me think the loud temple was starting up again. My heart would beat so hard and I had trouble breathing. After several months of this I was having a hard time. I had to leave the house many times.. in the dark, rain, morning time, on my pushbike (as I can't drive). I can not tell you how loud this was enough. Ear plugs, head under the pillow, shutting myself in the windowless store room and sleeping on the floor... still it was so loud I could feel it in my bones!

It got to breaking point when another neighbour started playing loud base music from his car, he would be drunk in the garden and the music go on for hours. Then finally I had the last straw when a religious Indian retreat opened opposite us, they played loud music too.. and often the temple and the retreats would crank up their music to try to drown each other out! They even had ringing bells, people practicing laughing / screaming exercises. There were days when there was loud music from 5am till midnight.

I lost it one day when I marched round there and yelled at everyone to shut up. The look on their faces. I am a shy person and never though I would do something like that. I was furious. I was also really ashamed of my behaviour. They did stay quiet for a few weeks after that (not the temple or drunk guy though), but eventually they got back to loud again.

It was our dream house we had built and we put a lot of love into it. But I was about to break up with my partner over all this... as it caused so much disruption to our lives and made tension between us, and I was getting really ill with the stress and acting like I was going to have a breakdown. I lost so much weight because I felt so sick I did not have an appetite.

We sold the house and moved into rented place. It was a very sad time.

Ever since that time I have been overly sensitive to noise. We were really careful about where we built the new house. We would go at different times, day and night and listen for noise for months before we bought the land.

It was great at first and such a relief to be in a quiet place. But now a neighbour has started to play loud base music every day at 5pm - 7pm after he gets home from work, for several months already. Its nowhere as loud as the temple, but just the feeling of the base in my body gives me the same reaction as at the old house and all the same feelings. As it gets towards 5pm I start to panic and get anxious even before any music comes on.

Last week next door started to build an extension. The builders turn up early and first thing they do is turn on their radio loud. Wakes me up in the morning. Again the same panic symptoms and desire to flee. I start shaking all over and get more and more irrational the longer it goes on. To be fair the radio music has no base beat, and to most people would not seem overly loud at all.

I am not happy now. I fell I want to leave again. But, I know this is not the answer, as really there is no problem, only in my mind. I don't want to throw away our house, my relationship and life over this.

But how the heck can I desensitise myself to the base sound or music? I tried playing my own music, but can still hear the beat from the neighbours music. I have to shut all the windows and turn up the TV loud, but I feel I am bored and wasting my time as I am scared to go out of the room.

Can anyone relate to this?

Thanks. PS sorry such a long post!!
 
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Hi JasonCM; welcome to the mental health forum :welcome::)

i managed to read through half of this post.

Well my solution to drown out outside noise that disturbs me, would be / is to blast my own choice of noise into my internal headspace instead, this for me can be pop songs, bin-aural beats, self-help audios etc.

Now IF the noise is vibrating your 'physical' living space & your body, then i can only suggest getting 'out of there' & moving far enough away to no longer be impacted / affected.

If you cannot stop the noise happening & have to live there, how about some sort of therapy , hypnosis maybe to enable you to reach a 'state' where by you can be in it all & 'not be adversely affected'...

hope you find a solution that works best for 'all involved'......

....Best of luck :grouphug:
 
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gam9147

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I think even those of us without specific noise related anxiety don't do well with loud continuous music during times we aren't interested in it. It is just an overall bad situation for anyone to be in.

I'd agree that you can try noise machines or music to block out theirs, or simply make it a point of trying to be out of the house during those times. Those are easier solutions. It seems you are in Thailand so I'm not sure if there are any legal avenues. In the US there are ordinances against noise at times people would be resting/sleeping.
 
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JasonCM

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Hi. I have not been back on here for a while and just read your replies. Thank you for all the suggestions. I have been seeing a doctor and he diagnosed me with Misophonia.

I am looking into the hypnosis idea.. that sounds good. But, I don't have much disposable income and the cost is a lot if it is not going to work.

I have been getting 'triggered' by any music sounds coming from outside, no matter how quiet them are. Also the sound of the neighbours air con extractor unit at nigh has started to trigger me. Again its not really loud at all.

I have started to loose a lot of weight and am getting more panic attacks, so I think I am getting worse. I will let you know what happens about the hypnosis.
 
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