Anxiety -> My Evil Best Friend I cant get rid of !!!?

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Forgive me I'm totally new to this type of forum and feel I need vent my issues and get pointed in the right direction if possible

I have been suffering in silence for over at least 15 years of my life with Anxiety. (Outside of My Dr) So this is the first time I've reached out towards a community of like minded people.

I had learnt to cope with it but over the past 5 or so years its making me really ill and close to not being able to face the day or the smallest amount of stress even rows when my kids are arguing. My Worry and panic or maybe its even fear (I Honestly dont know) has got to the point that i'm not sleeping and when simple things are not done on time for example a bill being missed I literally go from 1 -> 100 in a split second and I start panicking and worrying for days and days untill it gets cleared up and I can see everything is ok.

I cannot focus or enjoy anything anymore. I have 3 beautiful kids that don't like it when I shout or get stressed. I honestly feel like i'm losing my head slowly day after day.

I am very aware of my own heartbeat and thoughts and they are all negative. However the tablets I've been placed on (Fluoxetine) have done nothing really for my Anxiety. They haven't even taken and edge off.

I would like to stress that I'm happy with my life as in My Partner, Kids and home. I don't believe I have depression but the Anxiety is crippling me... I'm soon to leave for a week holiday with family and all I worry about it is my house being burgled or someone is watching the house and waiting.

Any help would be great
 
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hi I just wanted to welcome you to the forum
anxiety is awful ,I suffer myself and it can be all consuming without the right help
maybe ask to try some kind of anxiety med rather than anti depressant?
I hope you will like it here
lots of love Lu xxxx
 
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I was just about to say it sounds like you need a vacation ☺️

I took Effexor (fluoxetine) preciously and it didn’t help me either. I switched to Zoloft (sertraline) which does. If it’s been at least two months and no improvement I’d ask to up my dose or switch
 
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Ive been on Sertaline and that me 100 times worse. I know the drugs are hit and miss but that one made me so sick and my panic attacks and heart palpation's way worse. It also made me super angry and aggressive

I know there is a list of easy meds for GP's to prescribe on the NHS in England as that is one of them. Does anyone know if Beta Blockers work at all?

I get the most peace when I stick my head in water or its dead silence
 
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I take duloxitine and mirtazipine with lorazepam for emergency only. But when ever I leave the house I take a betablockers to slow my heart rate down. I wouldn’t be able to get out of the house without them
 
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I take duloxitine and mirtazipine with lorazepam for emergency only. But when ever I leave the house I take a betablockers to slow my heart rate down. I wouldn’t be able to get out of the house without them
Silly Question but were these prescribed by a GP [NHS] or by hospital specialists?

I can leave the house but I can only be out 30 mins or more and then flooded with dread, Panic and wanting to go back to my safe space of my home if you know what I mean. Most blood pressure test that ive had show im slightly on the high side but I am diabetic so that may throw things a little with the pills I'm on.

I guess if I was gonna be my most relaxed id be in the woods in a cabin with my family. I hate City life these days
 
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They were prescribed by a psychiatrist. It was found that my pulse was extreme high when anxious. Up to 164 bpm I was prescribed betablockers three times a day but it lowered my heart rate too much so now I just take two. I still have a high pulse of around 100 but that’s acceptable and I can cope with that
 
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My anxiety peaked in 2006 - it's still there, but less - like you I never had depression, but it just dawned on me one day that everything seemed to be working out OK, & it still keeps working out OK, nearly all the time, OK so I lost 50 Euros on my trip to France, but not my debit card, passport, or got injured, & had a great time, & maybe a lot of it was because I started to think immensely positive about everything, life & the future.

With tablets, I take only mirtazipine an hour before bed, nothing else, & that gives me an 8 hours sleep. Like I said, am constantly suprised by how everything seems to work out OK, but maybe it's because I'm overcoming negativity with immense positive thinking, & I'm sure you're holiday will work out OK, but you have to think positive.
 
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I used to call it my anxiety monster, but my hypnotherapist said it thinks it's protecting me but it wasn't, like you wrote, it thinks it's your friend, but can be evil by stopping things you want to do, you have to really push yourself to things your anxiety doesn't want you to do, & when things start working out OK, it can be a real surprise.
 
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I find that ive always been wary of people I dont know or trust but i guess that goes for everyone.
Would beta blockers benefit me?
This evening was killing me... Kids wouldn't go to bed, completely ignoring What i'm asking them today stressing me out. I got worried I had things to do I shouted at them to go to bed. Sometimes I feel like ive got my hand tied behind my back when im confronting issues in the house or bills or social situations. I want to think Positive I really do but atm this Anxiety stress and panic is taking over my life

sorry if its all over the place I wrote this to demonstrate how bad i am atm
 
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I actually think SSRIS of which Fluoxetine is one may reduce depression but can increase anxiety, just my opinion and my experience. I take Citalopram for depression and Pregabalin for anxiety
 
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Hi Sharadla,

I was just about to advise the same thing.

I take Pregabalin for my related anxieties, 50ml twice a day although my GP confirmed i can just take 1 a day), and Pregabalin is marvellous for my anxieties.

I would go back to your or book an appointment for your GP, or contact the crisis team attached to mental health department, and the GP, or they can then assess, and put you on to the correct med.


Best Wishes.
 
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Thanks Guys This Info is really helpful

The GP's ive spoken to just give you the generic drugs [Or Cheapest] not one thats made for Anxiety. Is there any I can suggest it to him/her? Sometimes it feels the GP is already speaking to someone behind me half the time and they never seem to listen.

I get angry alot and its with frustration; does anyone else get this too? I feel like a firework (now start singing the Kate Perry song). How do you cope with it? Or am I doomed to be with this for the rest of my life?
 
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Hi Sharadla,

On that note, I would give a crisis team attached to a community mental health team, explain the situation, and they can assess, and point you forward in the right direction, I'm not sure if I can publish a phone number live on the forums, and in any case I'd have to research the phone number as well, or alternatively, please give the samaratians a call, you might find them very helpful indeed.

I would go back also to the GP serivces, and maybe get a 2nd opinon, from a different GP, and suggest a medication, which I posted and somebody else has, as well, called Pregabalin, and this for me, and they find helpful as well works for Anxiety.


Your welcome.
 
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**Update** I'm Back from holiday and my house survived but I cant help but worrying about the next big thing that's gonna hit my life.

I'm full of hope then its just dashed by one thing or another. I only feel fine with everything is under my control other than that I worry like a MF. Trying to get an appointment to the Drs is proving hard and an emergency appointment was as usual useless. Looking up at the comments they have always said my heart rate is always high and the rest rate too. So its like walking in the mud trying to get better and don't seam to able even enjoy the things I enjoy doing.

I head is a real massive fuzz today
 
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I'm glad you had a nice holiday, I'm constantly suprised when things turn out OK.

I heard about something called Mindfulness only last year, it's all about learning to look at the here & now & enjoying what you've got now, which makes a lot of sense really.

I know my parents seem happy enough, even though there's a chance that they won't be around in even within 5 years time, but it doesn't bother them, just looking at the here & now, & enjoying it.

I tend to get up 4:30 am & relax watching TV, there is some good stuff to watch even at that time, but most importantly I get all the things that need to be done early on so I don't have to worry about it later on. Think positive, anxiety doesn't like positivity.
 
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I find that ive always been wary of people I dont know or trust but i guess that goes for everyone.
Would beta blockers benefit me?
This evening was killing me... Kids wouldn't go to bed, completely ignoring What i'm asking them today stressing me out. I got worried I had things to do I shouted at them to go to bed. Sometimes I feel like ive got my hand tied behind my back when im confronting issues in the house or bills or social situations. I want to think Positive I really do but atm this Anxiety stress and panic is taking over my life

sorry if its all over the place I wrote this to demonstrate how bad i am atm
It's hard to think positively when your super anxious, so instead I would try to think a little bit more neutral. It's easier to go from negative to a little bit more neutral. You can accomplish this by changing the way you talk to yourself and by changing the words you use to describe yourself. For example, I sometimes think of myself as cowardly and fearful. I change the words I use to describe myself from cowardly and fearful to cautious. It's more neutral, while still being true. It being still true is important otherwise I would feel like I was being a phony and I wouldn't believe what I was trying to tell myself, it would have the opposite affect.

A little fear/caution is a good thing. Fear stops people from acting on impulse, stuff like stealing whatever one wants, hitting whoever makes one mad, doing incredibly dangerous things. So fear does have some value. Fear, frustration and anxiety can be powerful motivators for change. They can motivate you to be proactive, so you can prepare for the difficult situations that constantly show up, beforehand. Once you see that fear has some benefits and that it even can be a good thing, it can take some of the strength out of it.

Maybe you have some "Hot Thoughts" that keep you stressed out and out of control. Hot thoughts are those super stressful thoughts, that give you the most trouble. There's a self-help book called "Thought and Feelings 3rd Edition" that talks about Hot Thoughts and reframing your thoughts in a more neutral manner.
 

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