• Welcome! It’s great to see you.

    If you'd like to talk with people who know what it's like

    Our forum members are people, maybe like yourself, who experience mental health difficulties or who have had them at some point in their life.

Anxiety & Depression

A

averyf

New member
Joined
Oct 19, 2020
Messages
2
Location
Winnipeg
Hi there. I hope I make sense when trying to explain my feelings.
Right off the bat I want to disclose that I “have”,”deal”,”diagnosed” with anxiety/depression. My mental health has been the shits since the pandemic started, but it has gotten worse as the months went by,due to loss of my job, financial burdens etc. I’m fully self aware that I’m not in the best mental state. I’ve been trying to keep busy & stay positive but also with the colder darker either arriving, my depression has suck in full force. Long story short. RECENTLY, I just feel like I can’t handle being alone (after my boyfriend goes home, or him not coming over at all during the week because of his schedule) I’m exhausted all the time. I’m very in tune with my body so I know when ive completely shut down, mentally. I’ve been feeling very scared to be alone, I live alone. I don’t See friends much as they all have their own families. I just don’t feel safe being alone, I hate being alone right now. It’s not like I’m scared of harming myself, nothing like that. It’s just I feel very scared of being alone, I don’t feel safe or supported. When my boyfriend is here I feel safe, I feel like if I broke down I’d be ok, or when he is with me I’m not thinking or worried about anything else because I’m living in the present. I don’t want to sound needy and cause an argument but is it wrong of me to want him here when I know mental health is terrible right now? What should I do? I’m at a loss. I get so much more depressed when he leaves and go into the rabbit hole and stay in bed all day or stay up all night worrying about everything and then sleeping all day. I’ve never felt alone like this before, fear of being alone. Thanks for the help in advance.
 
T

TheHollow

New member
Joined
Oct 19, 2020
Messages
4
Location
Hawaii
I'm probably not the best person to talk about this as I'm fine being alone, so I would start with questions. How do you think your available support system would react to being available? Not just your bf, but friends/family. I moved to a new place and was alone for months before my fiance joined me. Whenever I didn't want to be alone, I would call my family and argue about politics (a fun family past time).
 
A

averyf

New member
Joined
Oct 19, 2020
Messages
2
Location
Winnipeg
My family and I don’t really talk, pretty estranged, some would say. My boyfriend has school and work and he also likes his own space and his convenience of having his things at his place and not having to pack and commute. I just feel very stuck, I also couldn’t afford to be in university this year. So there’s just a lot of stuff dragging me down.
 
B

bpd2020

ACCOUNT CLOSED
Joined
May 25, 2020
Messages
7,535
Location
England
Hello averyf and welcome to the forum. I can totally understand you feeling safer and happier when your boyfriend is with you. When we are struggling and alone the thoughts are more present and we have no escape. Having somebody with us gives us something else to focus on and it is a distraction.

Have you any support from your doctor? Depression and anxiety can be helped with therapy and medication.
 
Similar threads
Thread starter Title Forum Replies Date
kayzee195 Has anyone used CBD to help with anxiety depression illness etc.? Anxiety Forum 4
P Anxiety/depression/lockdown Anxiety Forum 5
K Anxiety/Depression Out of Control Anxiety Forum 1
P Anxiety with side-salad of depression Anxiety Forum 4
W Anxiety, depression and ocd Anxiety Forum 3
N Anxiety and depression from being in a toxic relationship Anxiety Forum 5
B intrusive thoughts, depression, anxiety not coping Anxiety Forum 15
A Anxiety and depression are turning me into someone I don’t wanna be Anxiety Forum 6
J Feeling awful anxiety & depression Anxiety Forum 7
Ineedhelp2921 Could The Pill be making my anxiety and depression worse? Anxiety Forum 5
J Vision disturbance with Anxiety/depression Anxiety Forum 3
K Having mixed depression and anxiety, panic attacks as well, my life is falling apart Anxiety Forum 17
D Anxiety, Depression, and SSI Anxiety Forum 1
L Anxiety and Depression Anxiety Forum 6
D Anxiety, maybe depression? Anxiety Forum 1
R Hello I am rodds have anxiety depression all life Anxiety Forum 1
H I need a mentor to quit using tobacco. I forgot my lozenges at home and now I’m at work with no relief for my anxiety Anxiety Forum 12
Y First anxiety attack Anxiety Forum 14
B Does Buspar increase anxiety before becoming effective Anxiety Forum 1
A Hypnosis to treat Anxiety? Anxiety Forum 6
A Really bad anxiety over possible accidental pregnancy Anxiety Forum 6
E Anxiety with planning /lists Anxiety Forum 1
C Insecurity stemmed from driving anxiety Anxiety Forum 3
T Hello, struggling with health anxiety a little... Anxiety Forum 5
W Separation Anxiety Anxiety Forum 2
I Anxiety No Appetite Anxiety Forum 4
M Anxiety.... Anxiety Forum 5
D Sauna Heat Therapy - Anxiety Anxiety Forum 5
M Anxiety an ocd thoughts at night keep me up Anxiety Forum 5
HellRider Anxiety rears its ugly head Anxiety Forum 1
M Anxiety an paranoia Anxiety Forum 2
P Been a while...but health anxiety is returning with a vengeance. Anxiety Forum 19
P Anxiety Anxiety Forum 7
jajingna Things anxiety "makes" you do Anxiety Forum 22
J anxiety over internet socialising Anxiety Forum 4
P Anxiety Anxiety Forum 7
J Social anxiety and alcohol Anxiety Forum 28
J anxiety over telling a nice friend my unreasonable view Anxiety Forum 2
L My Anxiety Anxiety Forum 1
L Parental anxiety Anxiety Forum 1
V anxiety, ocd or delirium? PLEASE HELP :( Anxiety Forum 1
lazemz has your anxiety ever make it hard to get the mail ? Anxiety Forum 8
Jam1990 So much anxiety today Anxiety Forum 6
R Anxiety and Shakes Anxiety Forum 2
T Break up anxiety or something else? Anxiety Forum 2
WitchHazel I’m in a horrible anxiety attack Anxiety Forum 7
jajingna What type of anxiety affects you most? Anxiety Forum 18
stygianiron222 extreme sleep anxiety as a kid Anxiety Forum 1
fireandairo Recognising anxiety Anxiety Forum 1
fireandairo Recognising anxiety Anxiety Forum 3

Similar threads

Top