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Anxiety and sex

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Malfoy 13

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I hope it's ok to post this.
I'm a 34 Virgin gay guy. Every time I try to hook up with someone I have a panic attack. I am missing out on one of the enjoyments of life because I'm letting fear control me and I makes me very depressed. I don't know what to do. I have someone interested in me but Im terrifying of sex. Any one experience this? If so how did you get over it?
 
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yes I understand , and if this person is interested in you
in a genuine way
he will not be expecting sex immediately !

you can meet for coffee in a public place
make a time limit for the first date, say an hour or half an hour

then go away and think about him
how you feel about him , whether you feel safe

take your time over it ...

:hug5: ✨
 
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Malfoy 13

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So far its always been a deal breaker. They all just want sex. Don't get me wrong so do I but I just can't seam get passed this. I'm not even from a religious family so that it the problem.
 
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Ive seen lots of people post on this forum
that they are virgins , or they are not interested in sex
probably people dont admit to it in public !

if you feel the person you are seeing
is not going to be understanding and helpful
about your own unique qualities

then you might consider moving on to someone else

or just look for friends first of all
 
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