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Anticipatory anxiety

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firemonkee57

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Anticipatory anxiety - Anxiety UK

Mine has really ramped up. There's knowing what it is and there's knowing ways of combating it.
I just wish I could take a laid back approach a la "What will be will be" , and resign myself to my fate.
The constant catastrophising is hard to deal with.
 
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Weird thing is, it's not always 'big' events that I get this with.
Sometimes it can be as little as knowing I have to go to the supermarket.
Before I open my door to leave my flat, I always get those butterflies and shallow breaths. :unsure:

It's helpful to find a term for it, so thanks for sharing this link. Seems like i've just made a step in 'knowing what it is'. :)
 
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I never get it.

my childhood gave me an Anxiety Bypass. I remember being an extremely anxious child though. I used to be TERRIFIED of car crashes for no reason.

Last year I lived through a potentially disastrous crash, walked out without a scratch.
 
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The reason I have for some mild anxiety is I have a bad leg and going into certain situations like a doctors waiting room can have bad consequences for me. Generally I am able to stay in the here and now moment with a sense of continuity. I had a therapist who told me all my anxieties at the time were from what I was thinking. I use to have much worse anxiety and it changed when my thinking became clear/positive. The thinking has to be challenged.
 
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Anticipatory anxiety - Anxiety UK

Mine has really ramped up. There's knowing what it is and there's knowing ways of combating it.
I just wish I could take a laid back approach a la "What will be will be" , and resign myself to my fate.
The constant catastrophising is hard to deal with.
i have suffered severe anxieties from the age of 6 / 7 - it has in many ways been one of the main & most persistent problems.

i am the archetypal swan - very calm on the surface & very frantic underneath. People don't see the inner World.
 
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Meditation helped me tremendously with learning to live in the present and let things "be what they will be". Essentially, mindfulness and meditation train the mind to become aware of the whole of what's happening in the present, not just our ever-restless thinking mind. Most of our minds are conditioned to focus solely on thinking, but peace doesn't come from thinking.
Living in our heads, we're living in the past and future, not in the present. For example, anticipatory anxiety arises because of fear of what will happen in the future. We can't predict the future, but in an attempt to curb the anxiety, we often try to. Thoughts arise and we feel anxiety, so we add more thoughts to try to make ourselves feel better, exhausting ourselves and taking us further from reality.
In meditation, we focus on a sensation, usually the breath. When our mind wanders and loses its attention, we practice seeing/feeling whatever thought or feeling has arisen and gently letting it go. Then, we gently return our attention to the breath. This teaches our minds to learn to watch and observe thoughts instead of unconsciously reacting to them, and to focus on what's happening in the present moment.
If you want more information on meditation, feel free to send me a message!
Wishing you peace!
 
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Actually, there is no here and now. The present moment is already in the past by the time you notice it.

But you can observe it's passage, it's continuity.You can learn to trust it.
 
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