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Another Christmas topic

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Lightning

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Christmas sucks for an introverted guy like me who has depression/social anxiety.

Meeting up with family who I haven’t seen or talked to since last year, doing the whole kiss on the cheek hello thing, spending 8 hours stuck indoors hopelessly trying to make conversation, not being able to think of anything to say, stumbling over my words, sounding like an idiot, trying to find an explanation as to why I haven’t got a girlfriend yet, watching others effortlessly converse and laugh, makes me think why did I even bother coming, no one even knows I’m here anyway, I’m trying to relax but it ain’t easy with kids running around playing with noisy toys, and the only way to cope is by drinking way too much, arrrrggggh! Why can’t I just be normal?!?! :confused:
 
Bizzarebitrary

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I'm sorry to hear how difficult it was to cope during the holiday family gathering. It's often this way for we who struggle with depression. In the past I've declined attending because my symptoms were just too strong. My view is spending holidays like Christmas in isolation isn't better it's just a different flavor of crap.

For we who struggle with depression, life at times only offers bad options.

It sounds like you did your best to cope so I hope you'll show compassion for yourself. I feel your frustration with the illness and of course you wish it weren't your burden. We can only be the best version of ourselves but nothing more. If life were tidy, we could be that version always when it matters.

Remind yourself that this year's holiday wasn't a catastrophe, that you had the courage to try and participate and no one in your family is qualified to judge you.
 
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Holidays can be hard. I forget what I had wanted to say to my sons. I can't even remember how to work the TV, overwhelmed by all the stations available. Soon as everyone is gone, I remember what I'd wanted to say.
 
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Thankyou both for taking the time to reply. I’m doing a bit better today having gone back to work and slipping back into my normal routine, I always like to have something practical to do so I’m not all up in my head thinking negatively. We shouldn’t put too much pressure on ourselves to be someone we’re not at this time of year - just focus on getting better one little step at a time.
 
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