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Nutter_09

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Hi all,
I have depression and suffer with anxiety.
I met my boyfriend about 8 months ago and it is my first proper relationship. We are both in love and are happy. Im not sure if its just me, or coz men don't really talk about stuff much but when we first started going out, i tried to find out about his previous relationships etc. He has never had a serious relationship either and has always been into his sport. He has some pictures with a girl from last year - someone he met through his sport. He said they were just friends and nothing ever happened. Not that I would mind - I juds like to know.
She lives quite far away and some mutual friends said that their was more to it.
Last night we were looking at this envirophone thing as he found an old phone. I was looking through it at pics etc and their were old txts between them. Nothing to serious, just about her missing him babe and will come down soon, he said something like his mum was not going away so she wouldn't be able to stay at his.
Am i being too paranoid? I know he has a past but I like to talk about it and know things - should I ask him about it?
He has gone away now - I am still at his and was tidying up his room - and found myself looking through things and nosing! I know its bad but now I wonder about other things.
I found a porn DVD which really upset me. I know men like these things but as this is my first relationship im not 100% sure what its like - do men watch these when they are in a happy realtionship? Should it be something we do together? Should I mention that I saw it??
I hope I don't seem to silly, i am 24 and all my friends would have been through all of this ages ago and i feel so stupid being so paranoid and upset about it all.
I know he loves me and I make him happy.

Any advice??
 
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I think you should ask him about the txts.

As for the DVD do you know it is not an old one from the time you weren't together?
Some couples get more turned on or try it as something new to add variety in the bedroom. Some may even watch it and take ideas from it for new positions etc.

Maybe you should tell him you found it, be a bit harsh on him and see how he responds, then catch him off guard and ask if you can watch it together :innocent:

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Thanks for replying.
I just keep things like this in my mind and go over and over in my head - I will tell him I found it - I wasn't snooping when I found either so I know I have the right.
I may try that piece of advice!! She what he says!! LOL

Thanks again
 
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some men,myself included :rolleyes: may watch a porn movie on the sly but dose not mean he loves his girl any less or would wont to be with any other female

i watch them ok but i do not wont any other girl in my life,i love my wife and i always will.

i think you will find most guy watch them on the sly,I DID NOT SAY ALL

oh and i bet he would love to watch it with you
:)
 
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