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Am i over reacting?

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123roppo

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Hi yes I know long time no post ect. Things have been good for the most part so not really needed the support and been busy with a new job and life.

I'm here to ask if I'm over reacting to something that's happened today with my care coordinator. Long story short in off my meds and having a tough time mentally. So not in a good place at all but somewhat managing. I went to a and e over the weekend and my care coordinator called today to see where I'm at. It was a good conversation until he asked me one stupid question and I flipped out. "Do you not think you may be over exaggerating your symptoms... " I didn't even let him finish. I lost it and put the phone down, then proceeded to email him and say how he's just like everyone else. How he clearly can't trust me of her can't believe me about how I feel.

We have a good relationship yes I rely on him way too much but it works for me. I've made nothing but progress with him this past few years. But I feel like he's shown his true colors now, how can he question my own experiences and feelings. Why would I even lie about it? Lieing gets you nowhere especially with mental health. I feel soo let down and alone all over again 😭.

I'm in the mindset of just go away and leave me alone now. I know it's not healthy to shut everyone out but I keep letting people in like this and they keep letting me down. I just feel so done now, why should I try?
 
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davidr

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It sounds like you are putting way too much value on other people’s opinion about yourself. Maybe try to be a little more understanding, as most people have no clue about mental illness because they have never experienced it. For instance, I find it difficult to explain depression to someone who never had it, they keep asking, well, just decide to be happy - like it’s that simple. Hopefully this gave you some insight.
 
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so sad

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I would have reacted the same. He is your care co-ordinator and should know how anyone would react to that kind of comment. He works in mental health and really should know better.
I'm appalled at the question and I really feel for you.
could you see him face to face to talk about it? I know that would be really hard but I think its the only way to move forward. Otherwise, you will shut yourself away (I would want to as well) and that won't help you.
Maybe email him and ask for an appointment for in a couple of days?
xx
 
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Almost always in love

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People sometimes really say stupid things..
And sometimes I really loose patience with those people..
Then I either ignore them forever or if its somebody I used to like.. I bug them with sms's telling them how stupid I think what they said is..
Or write a longwinded mail explaining how the end of the world, (read end of my world), is all their fault.

If Im lucky they forgive me. Sometimes.

And then I sleep and go for a walk and start missing these people anyway and sometimes get worried that I overreacted and my outburst was not fair after all..

This is how things typically goes.

So maybe just tell your caretaker what an ass you think he was for saying something you found really insensitive and stupid.

He is just human also.
And likely/ maybe he will be okay with you telling how you feel..

Let him explain how his own life is dragging him down and his workload is giving him stress.
Because .. How annoying it might be - fact is nobody has to be mentally ill to have a stressful life and shitty days.
And on shitty days its easy to say all the wrong things.
 
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123roppo

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Oh I've emailed him and told him exactly what I thought. I've also told him to leave me on my own so I can work things out. Debating on going to mums for a few try to get my head clear, that and I'd I'm not home he can't show up right 🤣.
 
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