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Am I just having a high pride or my guardians has their faults too.

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Charliez710

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I was raised by my grandmother throughout my child hood as a prince like I don't have work to do. I must admit my fault either, yes I don't know any work as a child because I was raised as a prince you know, a bit spoiled but not a spoiled brat. But now that I'm matured, I'd say that I came out of that stage of my life. I've learn what and what's not to do. But I want you guys to analyze my problem because I think I'm just having a high pride from myself and I dont want that.


Throughout the year of my life, my uncle throws nothing but criticism of negative comments on me and he will never throw positive. He say I'm irresponsible, stupid, coward, immature, good for nothing. He never cheers me up instead, he views me as one of the useless people and he keeps putting that in my mind that's why, I never had a confidence of myself. Sometimes, if someone ask me to keep an item for a while, I'm afraid I might lost it. I believe my uncle is corrupting me because one single mistake, he will condemn my whole persona and sometimes, I'm getting fed up because sometimes he will just go to my room just to throw some criticism.

Now my problem is, throughout the year I develop a huge wrath upon him. Everytime I see him I always feel that he will throw something negative and it pissess me off when I see him. One day, we fight because I answer back at him because I had enough because everyday he will come to my room just to throw negative comments to myself I almost even punch him in the face I didnt give a damn if he was my uncle because I had enough there is no peace in me when he will get near to me. He said that I dont want to be corrected and I have a high pride myself. I believed he is the one responsible to one of my mental sickness and he corrupted me by inflicting those negative words that's why I view myself very very low. He always discourage me when I will enter something.

My uncle is a critic person even to other people tells me that is his problem. Yeah, I admit my mistake their because I grew up as a prince, but now I'm matured, he cant see that and continues what he is doing.

Now my question is people, am I having a high pride that I dont want to be corrected or my guardians has their fault too? I do accept corrections for other people but lets say if its everyday in my daily routine that I would here nothing but negative, I guess I would say I cant handle that kind of thing.
 
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Hi Charlie,

I would say if your uncle is continually criticising you then this is something that could certainly contribute to MH issues, it is extremely damaging. I grew up with highly critical parents so I understand something about what it is like. I think sometimes as well when people are verbally abusing us they tell us it is for our own good - I had that as well from my mum.

I don't think being raised by a loving grandparent means you have too much pride in yourself but sometimes people like to put others down if they see them treated well, that may be what your uncle is trying to do.

Do you live with him now, or is he someone you can distance yourself from?

And I'd say it's normal not to want to hear negative things about yourself daily, and growing up being continually critcised makes it harder to take criticism in adulthood I think, not easier.
 
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Hi Charlie,

I would say if your uncle is continually criticising you then this is something that could certainly contribute to MH issues, it is extremely damaging. I grew up with highly critical parents so I understand something about what it is like. I think sometimes as well when people are verbally abusing us they tell us it is for our own good - I had that as well from my mum.

I don't think being raised by a loving grandparent means you have too much pride in yourself but sometimes people like to put others down if they see them treated well, that may be what your uncle is trying to do.

Do you live with him now, or is he someone you can distance yourself from?

And I'd say it's normal not to want to hear negative things about yourself daily, and growing up being continually critcised makes it harder to take criticism in adulthood I think, not easier.

Yes I do live with him. For now, he stopped for a while on criticism since I start fighting back and almost punch him in the face. Yeah, I admit it its really really really wrong if I get physical his authority is higher than me.

In my view, I do accept corrections especially to my grandma. But when it comes to him, I get anger so fast even just by seeing him. I dont wanna be rebellious or something, but I'm getting fed up.

I was raised by my grandma who passed away on April. Like I said, I was raised like a prince which means, people serve me like a prince. Which means, I dont know any works like washing plates, cooking, washing my clothes and stuffs because I was grew up a prince. But in time when I'm getting matured, I start to learning those. THe problem is, one mistake he would remind me all of my failures and stuffs like he will condemn my whole persona and that pissed me off that he had no control on his criticism. Sometimes he will criticize me on how I go down on the bus just what the heck is that? Sometimes he threw weird criticism. In my country Philippines, its really used in our culture to have a maid which will do all the works for you, its really used here but of course like I said, I've learned how to survive the world those part of my childhood that I dont know how to survive is on the age of 5-18 which is very late maturity. I must admit my part because I wanna know if I'm just having a high pride that doesnt want to be corrected by others.
 
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sorry to hear about your grandma :hug1:

It must be difficult to adjust to a new way of living and it's not your fault if you were brought up one way and didn't learn how to do things like cook and wash etc, and it sounds like you have since tried to learn these things to look after yourself. So I would say it is not really fair for your uncle to be criticising you for not doing things or for your whole character just because you make mistakes - we all make mistakes including him.
 
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