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Am I being ridiculous?

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bluebell24

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A friend of my husband started seeing on of my H's ex-girlfriends. We've all socialised together in recent months and while my husband never actually stated how long they were together he always said it was nothing serious. Last night I found out it was actually 3 years. It was in his teens and I'm not bothered about her being an ex but I feel really hurt that he made it out to be a brief relationship.

I feel like I've been made a fool out of, knowing that I've spent time with all the other three knowing this when I thought it was just a quick fling.

I don't know if I'm right to feel hurt or if being ill is distorting things. I need to be able to trust my husband as he's the only person helping me get through things at the moment so now I feel scared and confused.:confused:
 
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I can understand how you feel but I can also see where your husband is coming from. He probably just didn't want to upset you and (especially if it was in his teens) obviously it was just like a fling, you know whats its like when you're young, you can be someones boyfriend for ages and hardly see them. Please don't feel foolish, just enjoy their company.
 
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i agree with unlucky
 
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schizolanza

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No you're not being rediculous.If you feel hurt then that's not your fault.Your husband should have been more honest with you than he was.I would feel hurt too.
 
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schizolanza

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I'm sure your husband didn't hurt you on purpose though.I think you should be able to trust him still.
 
Lion Heart

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dont let this get in the way of you two please
 
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bluebell24

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Thanks everyone, it's all good now ... I think my husband has realised I don't like him glossing over things now and I've also had to learn that sometimes it's the depression making things seem bigger than they are. I know he loves me and didn't mean to hurt me, and he's doing a fantastic job of looking after me right now : )
 

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