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Am I bad person?

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Charlie Patterson

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Hey everyone! I hope you're all well. I just want to express how I've been feeling for a long time... The thoughts I've been having for nearly 3 years...

I have this friend, they and I go way back and we were best friends in High School, even though most of the time it really didn't feel like it at all... Which brings me to my point. This person treated me horribly, like absolute trash to say the least and all that time I stood by their side, throughout all of it... Im not quite sure why but I did. One day I finally got to express to this person how I truly felt about them, and they admitted to their wrongdoings... Each and every one of them... So even though it didn't undo all that they did, I atleast got some closure out of those near two years.

Now, I can honestly say that this person has really and truly grown, and frankly I am proud of them for how far they have come as a person and it makes me happy to think where our friendship is now, though I haven't seen this person in two years I still keep in touch with them and we talk often, just to check up on each other, see how we doing. They have recently apologized for the way they treated me and I was happy with how transparent and genuine it was, but admitedly I sometimes think of those years where they treated me horribly and all the horrible things they said to me and it makes me very uneasy. I've had to unlearn a lot of self-hatred because of it aswell... I've forgiven them, and they said their sorry... Am I bad person for still subconsciously dwelling on their past wrongdoings towards me? The way I see it... I just need time...

Thanks for taking the time to read this and I apologize for any grammatical and/or spelling errors. Have a good one : )
 
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I don't think you are a bad person, just someone who has justifiable cause to be cautious on this friend. 2 years of bad behaviour cannot be wiped out over night.
 
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Charlie, you are far from a bad person. You still talk to your friend and are very kind to them. It is understandable to remember the times you were hurt. Painful times cannot just be wiped out.
 
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