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Allys DBT thread

RainbowHeartz

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Have been practising mindfulness

And set the challenge of noting every judgement I make of myself and others might share might not but I'm go I'm starting today

My first judgement was omg my toenails look bad, because of chipped nail varnish

Heh anyway will post more on this thread Sunday probably xx
 
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Tropical when you Insert an Image untick the box that say's-"retrieve remote file and reference locally".
I have no idea what you mean. I didn't insert an image. Are you talking to Ally and not me?
 
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I have no idea what you mean. I didn't insert an image. Are you talking to Ally and not me?
Yep your right Tropical.

Sorry I just responded to your "Reply With Quote" to Alligator thinking you had inserted the Image.

So yep it was meant for Alligator.
 
RainbowHeartz

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Hey

Okay so I done my judgemental chart thing but too embarrassed to share that o_O
BUT
I have learnt that alot of my thinking is all good or all bad so black and white thinking.. example.. dizzy busy may look angry and I think omg what have I done OR he doesn't seem a nice person... then later that day dizzy busy may smile at me and help me in someway and suddenly then are all lovely wonderful and good.. Okay so now I realise my judgemental Ness I can be more aware that I'm making judgements and with mindfulness practice I can stay in the present make a judgement and let it go... but slowing down the pace I may need to practice more on imaging thoughts on leaves and seeing them float away, so it will be more challenging to do it whilst thinking wonderfully or in awkward situations.. Okay I also gained more knowledge on the wise mind and need to practice this daily along with basic breathing exercises and doing minimum 3 completely mindful tasks concentrating on 4/5 senses. hindrances to mindfulness is sleepiness, restlessness, aversions, aiming for perfectionism. I am now up to practicing mindful breathing 3+ mins a day practising wise mind 3+ mins a day, doing at least 3 mindful tasks a day.. also I am going to start using I statements instead of you statements
Example
You made me angry.... could be changed to..... I felt angry when you did that
I'm learning that being angry hurts me more than the person whom upset me and is best to confront people once calmed down.. also to think in the present and not dwell by using the floating leaf technique. That's just off the top of my head what I've learnt and done today, I'm in bed lights off too relaxed to go check what else I learnt.. but with practise I'm sure I can and anybody can be more mindful, it's more about remembering to be mindful than it is to learn it.. have made charts and will wear a symbolic something to work to remind me about mindfulness... anyways alot of ramblings which may not make sense
But
I highly recommend mindfulness to people's that haven't tried it before.. I will up date more as I learn and do more DBT and mindfulness work xx
 
Lincoln1990

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Ally-I've been through DBT skills as well if you need any help. And that goes with anybody. I still have all of my notes! And I've watched videos as well.
 
RainbowHeartz

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Hi Lincoln that brilliant :) and thanks for the offer! I like your new avatar x
 
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I've done my judgement chart for a week, and it helped me too realise how judgemental I can be.. I am mostly putting the dbt workbook on hold to practice and learn mindfulness to a better degree.. I am also using I statements
I feel _____ when you do that
I felt ______ when that happens
Etc etc
And I have been practising meditation alot xx
 
RainbowHeartz

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Eventually I will move on too how a primary emotion can set of secondary emotions effecting me later on in life an example would be

Snappy at a work colleague made me angry
Now it's uncomfy to work
I felt I wanted revenge
Now I've learnt to let karma sort him out

You see one event caused many problems through one emotion towards another... well I kinda could be talking out my arse on this post as need to actually read and fill in the work sheet but for now like I said above I'm learning more about mindfulness, and meditation and practising I statements x
 
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