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Alcohol ruins familys

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Twokiwisandabanana

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I am a child of an alcoholic
I was taught to drink and take drugs and smoke encouraged to do so I did
For 15 years.
It took e to bad places.
But there was part of me that always wanted to be better.
It's taken me a long time and I know longer want to drink. I've even quite smoking LOL
But let's call a spade a spade alcoholism is self medicating and a a ILLNESS
Not a thing to be encouraged.
And guess what my neices dad he's an alcoholic downs bottles of vodka every day
Apparently ELLA wasn't enough for him to get sober.
So sorry if I am triggered to a flippant casual attitude towards being a drunken wreck
I've fought hard to not be that.
 
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exyz

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Hi Twokiwis,

I think you have done amazing. That has been a long struggle for you.
My mother was an alcoholic, she was very abusive emotionally. My grandfather protected me a lot but she grew worse when he died when I was little. My Dad worked away a lot and now I am older I realise that he was a functioning alcoholic. They used to leave me locked in the house when they went drinking.
Eventually, after my Dad passed I went no contact with my mother when I was married and had children of my own. She was a cruel and nasty person. I am not sure why she drank so much but I was always to blame whatever it was that bothered her. I am doing ok now.

I smoked a hell of lot also. It took a long time to give up but I have managed not to smoke for a few years now.

You are doing well for yourself. Respect to you, it has been a hard road for you.:peace:
 
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Twokiwisandabanana

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Thanks for your reply
Sorry you went through that I don't think people realise what being a child of an alcoholic is like.
Good on you for quitting smoking! That's not easy.
 
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It's a bit tough for us isn't it? I guess when you are little you don't know any different.

How are you doing with the smoking? I must say I felt worse before I felt better with it.

Now I can almost blow up a balloon:D Not too good on going up hill though my knees need a makeover too!
 
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Twokiwisandabanana

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Hi exyz yes when It took me two attempts because the first time I quit I kept finding cigs in my coat pocket
And Id think I'll just have one and its is NEVER just one.
So the second time I did it I would get a ciagreetes that ive found and dunk it in water straight away.
 
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