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greysea
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Hello,
I think i need help to help my friend. He recently graduated and such and came to visit us recently. This friend,... let's say Neil, probably has some form of OCD and other things, to give a small hint:
He will /constantly/ pace whilst constantly fidgiting with his hands (as he says he cannot control them), this pacing will on average, and if left to his own devices, last for hours and hours in the same manner, he will also sit in the dark for hours too, sometimes in the corner, i know he slept on the floor more than a few times when he stayed (he stayed in my room and i had to get something in the morning) - he also paces in the dark, which scared another housemate of mine. When a different housemate of mine and some others took Neil out - they both like ales and stuff, Neil would walk off -on more than one occasion- and end up just sat near the river, on previous occasions he has ended up in fields on his little spontanious walks. He also obsessivly cleans for hours and insists on things being symetric.
well, i hope that gives a hint at it anyway, i basically need help getting him to get help, i don't know how i'd go about it. His former flatmate did try and directly get him to get help, but it only resulted in him avoiding said flatmate for the next few months :/. So i don't know how to do it - there is a chance i'd be able to persuade him to come with me to when i see someone (that'll take forever though as booking is stupidly busy and slow) but there are a few problems in that he is : more cynical than me and so less trusting of these people, more paranoid than me so will suspect i'm up to something and avoid me, more stubburn than me -gurr, and more intelligent than me, he wouldn't put up with people asking him how his day went or stuff, he'd analyse the motives for asking rather than just answer :/
*headache*
does anyone have any idea on how we can help Neil??? he deserves to get better, he's a wonderful person, but this stuff is just chaining him up.
please?
thank you so much in advance!
(sorry it's so long)
I think i need help to help my friend. He recently graduated and such and came to visit us recently. This friend,... let's say Neil, probably has some form of OCD and other things, to give a small hint:
He will /constantly/ pace whilst constantly fidgiting with his hands (as he says he cannot control them), this pacing will on average, and if left to his own devices, last for hours and hours in the same manner, he will also sit in the dark for hours too, sometimes in the corner, i know he slept on the floor more than a few times when he stayed (he stayed in my room and i had to get something in the morning) - he also paces in the dark, which scared another housemate of mine. When a different housemate of mine and some others took Neil out - they both like ales and stuff, Neil would walk off -on more than one occasion- and end up just sat near the river, on previous occasions he has ended up in fields on his little spontanious walks. He also obsessivly cleans for hours and insists on things being symetric.
well, i hope that gives a hint at it anyway, i basically need help getting him to get help, i don't know how i'd go about it. His former flatmate did try and directly get him to get help, but it only resulted in him avoiding said flatmate for the next few months :/. So i don't know how to do it - there is a chance i'd be able to persuade him to come with me to when i see someone (that'll take forever though as booking is stupidly busy and slow) but there are a few problems in that he is : more cynical than me and so less trusting of these people, more paranoid than me so will suspect i'm up to something and avoid me, more stubburn than me -gurr, and more intelligent than me, he wouldn't put up with people asking him how his day went or stuff, he'd analyse the motives for asking rather than just answer :/
*headache*
does anyone have any idea on how we can help Neil??? he deserves to get better, he's a wonderful person, but this stuff is just chaining him up.
please?
thank you so much in advance!
(sorry it's so long)