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Advice on DBT therapy



New member
Dec 18, 2018
I’m currently receiving help in an inpatient BPD specialist unit.
But all I want to do is leave. I’m struggling making the commitment to therapy and part of me just wants to give up. Has anyone else had DBT therapy and do they feel that it’s helped them to find a life worth living?

so sad

Well-known member
Feb 24, 2016

I have DBT but not as an inpatient. I’m on my 3rd module, 1st time round.
Its only been since the last 4 weeks that its started to make sense and that only happened when I thought the chances of me getting the 2nd cycle was under threat.
For me, the emotional regulation work has made the biggest difference and the last 3 weeks have been the best I’ve had in a while. That isn’t because its been easy with no dramas because its been tough with various tough things to handle, but using the DBT has really helped. I was self harming and only just avoiding crisis for weeks, now I’m more in control of my emotions and reactions.
With my partner, I always reacted defensively, like she was accusing me of things when in reality she was commenting on something but because I always want to fix things I was taking responsibility for that thing when it wasn’t mine to take. As a result, she doesn’t have a go back and we don’t bicker the same.
My urges are much lower and more manageable.

How do you get on with your one-to-one DBT therapist? I get on with mine really well which has also helped.
Sorry I can’t comment on it from an in-patient point of view, but please stick with it.
If you want to ask me anything I’ll answer if I can.

Take care

Girl interupted

Well-known member
Nov 17, 2018
DBT is meant to distract your mind from immediate destructive thoughts. By forcing you to look at your immediate environment and name things you see, you stop (temporarily) thinking the self destructive thoughts.

It’s kind of like that exercise: Whatever you do, don’t think of an elephant wearing a pink tutu. Because you’ve introduced that thought, it’s hard to think of anything else.

It’s like a muscle though. It gets stronger the more you use it. Then it becomes a tool you can use to move on with more regular bits of life.

Mindful meditation works that way too. I know it sounds like bunk, but I’ve found it helps bridge the immediate crisis. There’s an app called Headspace, see if you find it helps.

But keep at it, anything new will feel foreign and weird at first, but it does help.

Good luck!
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