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RareCMe

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Hello everyone.
So to keep it brief I’m trying to move on with my life after a serious cancer battle. It’s all got too much for me after losing my job and I’ve spiralled to the point where I have panic attacks when I’m alone and can’t do anything normal like shopping or anything useful in the home.

The job centre told me to claim ESA while I recover mentally and I have been but it’s stopped following my assessment where I scored zero. Because I can load the washing machine and feed my son I have no limited capability. But it takes so much staying strong in front of my son that I breakdown when I’m on my own. All appointments I’ve been to I break down. Even at the assessment I cried and panicked but they said I “communicated effectively”. Imagine that at an interview! How can I work when I’m like this. Has anyone else experience of this. Because I keep myself together for my son I get no financial support. If I didn’t keep it together and didn’t feed him and take him to school I would have him taken away. So because I do what’s needed for him I can pass an interview and hold down a job. How is this making sense?
 
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Try citizens advice to help you get evidence that your struggling hope it works out x
 
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Try citizens advice to help you get evidence that your struggling hope it works out x
Thank you. I might. I also started a conversation with Macmillan but couldn’t take the call when they called me back so will see if they can help. I’m so upset I feel like I don’t matter and I’ve just read someone is getting PIP and ESA and they have so much money they don’t know what to do so they are giving it away to charity. And we have me on the flip side who can’t get a single penny. 😢
 
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Hello RareCMe. I am so sorry you got turned down for ESA. It must have been scary having to go through cancer treatments. Cancer is everyone's worst nightmare. I know the road to recovery is long after the cancer is treated. Talk to your doctor about getting a letter of support for ESA or any other helping organisation. It takes a long time for your body and emotions to recover after cancer. My mom has cancer and she is taking treatments they have destroyed her body. But she is still with us. She is 85. I will say a pray for you and hope all turns out well. Lots of hugs and good wishes Jules.
 
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Welcome to the Forum hope someone will ease your suffering with the right words.
 
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Worriedyin

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Hello everyone.
So to keep it brief I’m trying to move on with my life after a serious cancer battle. It’s all got too much for me after losing my job and I’ve spiralled to the point where I have panic attacks when I’m alone and can’t do anything normal like shopping or anything useful in the home.

The job centre told me to claim ESA while I recover mentally and I have been but it’s stopped following my assessment where I scored zero. Because I can load the washing machine and feed my son I have no limited capability. But it takes so much staying strong in front of my son that I breakdown when I’m on my own. All appointments I’ve been to I break down. Even at the assessment I cried and panicked but they said I “communicated effectively”. Imagine that at an interview! How can I work when I’m like this. Has anyone else experience of this. Because I keep myself together for my son I get no financial support. If I didn’t keep it together and didn’t feed him and take him to school I would have him taken away. So because I do what’s needed for him I can pass an interview and hold down a job. How is this making sense?
Hi, I'm so sorry for what you've been through.

Do you have a mental health diagnosis? If you are having disabling panic attacks and are unable to work, you should tell your GP and request a 'fit note' which contrary to its name is a medical certificate saying you are too unwell to work, which you can then provide to the dwp for ESA. This is where I would start if I were you. They require medical evidence to support an ESA claim.

I really hope things improve for you and until then, I hope you manage to get your benefits sorted.
 
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RareCMe

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Hi, I'm so sorry for what you've been through.

Do you have a mental health diagnosis? If you are having disabling panic attacks and are unable to work, you should tell your GP and request a 'fit note' which contrary to its name is a medical certificate saying you are too unwell to work, which you can then provide to the dwp for ESA. This is where I would start if I were you. They require medical evidence to support an ESA claim.

I really hope things improve for you and until then, I hope you manage to get your benefits sorted.
I have been sending them GP fit/sick notes since the day I made my claim. My GP also completed the form to say he expects my condition to be long term. Yet despite that they know better. 🤔
 
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RareCMe

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Hello RareCMe. I am so sorry you got turned down for ESA. It must have been scary having to go through cancer treatments. Cancer is everyone's worst nightmare. I know the road to recovery is long after the cancer is treated. Talk to your doctor about getting a letter of support for ESA or any other helping organisation. It takes a long time for your body and emotions to recover after cancer. My mom has cancer and she is taking treatments they have destroyed her body. But she is still with us. She is 85. I will say a pray for you and hope all turns out well. Lots of hugs and good wishes Jules.
Thank you. It helps to know I’m not being dramatic because part of me is telling me to just get on with it. I can have a lovely big income again but the reality of it is much harder. Compared to the salary I could earn ESA is not close but to reduce my options to nothing is hard to accept. I hope your mum and your family get and stay well.
 
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I just wanted to send all my love
im sorry for what you have been through and I hope things get sorted really soon
love Lu xxx
 
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I have been sending them GP fit/sick notes since the day I made my claim. My GP also completed the form to say he expects my condition to be long term. Yet despite that they know better. 🤔
It sounds like something has gone wrong somewhere, someone above suggested CAB which would be my next step and then an appeal because that doesn't add up.

I must admit I found the ESA process time consuming but didn't have any problems with my entitlement so am totally baffled that you'd be in this situation.
 
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It sounds like something has gone wrong somewhere, someone above suggested CAB which would be my next step and then an appeal because that doesn't add up.

I must admit I found the ESA process time consuming but didn't have any problems with my entitlement so am totally baffled that you'd be in this situation.
It’s exhausting. I take forever to get to sleep at the best of times but last night I laid in bed next to my husband doing all I could not to cry, my heart was pounding so hard I don’t know how it didn’t explode. In some ways I want to give in but me and my family are suffering enough right now, I won’t let this little help I can get them get dismissed.
 
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