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Littlered95

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I am hoping someone might be able to offer some advice/insight into this for me.

My partner suffers from depression and seems to be in a rough patch. I noticed he was being more distant, communicating less etc. So I challenged it. He essentially said he’s feeling low and needed space. We agreed to cut contact for now, but I’m feeling down about the whole thing.

I wondered if anyone who has been in the position of my partner and could help me understand a bit bette - is this a common thing?

and am I best to totally back off and wait for him to come back (if he wants), or should I check in with him every so often and let him know I’m here when he’s ready?

It’s so hard to know what to do for the best. Thank you for reading!
 
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I’m assuming you don’t live together?

It’s common, at least from my experience. I’m suffering a lot at the moment, and as much as I appreciate my partner and how he wants to help me, some days I just want to be left alone. I’d love nothing more than to have my own place when feeling really down, and there is also the guilt I feel that just because I’m going through a rough time doesn’t mean he has to. So there might be some guilt that’s he’s feeling to?

I’d give some space, but keep checking in.
 
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I’m assuming you don’t live together?

It’s common, at least from my experience. I’m suffering a lot at the moment, and as much as I appreciate my partner and how he wants to help me, some days I just want to be left alone. I’d love nothing more than to have my own place when feeling really down, and there is also the guilt I feel that just because I’m going through a rough time doesn’t mean he has to. So there might be some guilt that’s he’s feeling to?

I’d give some space, but keep checking in.
Thanks for replying. No, we don’t live together. So difficult to get the balance right - I don’t want him to think I don’t care, but I also don’t want to suffocate him. It may be he’s feeling guilt too - I’m not sure I handled it very well initially and feel like I need to go back and let him know that I understand now and respect what he said
 
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