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Advice for Hiding Scars

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Clsampson33

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So, a couple weeks ago I self harmed on my left forearm and upper arm pretty badly. Around ten injuries. I've self harmed before but never in a public area, nor did I ever want to, but I was extremely mad at people and myself one day and had a panic attack and did it. As a result I have several scars and several of the injuries are still healing, I've been wearing long sleeve shirts since that day to hide them. I'm 18, still live with my parents too. They would freak out if they knew I self harmed and also I don't want my friends to know really because the last thing I want is sympathy. Any ideas on how to hide these without a long sleeve shirt? The weather is warming up and I can't stand it anymore. And for the future, because people are going to see eventually.. any advice on how to tell people without them freaking out? I'm thinking of telling my best friend but he would maybe.. I just hate constantly hiding them, it's a hassle.
 
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Hi and welcome to the forum! :welcome:
This is a hard one, as a former self harmer i understand the difficulty of hiding scars.
You can get cover up make up which is easy to apply and is waterproof but its the hassle of having to apply it everyday. The one i use is called Veil. Not sure if you can get it or something similar in the USA?

As for telling people, not everyone understands self harm. They think its about wanting to die which isnt the case. My mum still doesnt understand and well her generation (60+years) didnt have the information about mental health that we have today.

Im sorry i cant offer you great advice, i just wanted to welcome you and let you know that you are not alone.
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You could use accessories such as sweat bands or leather gauntlets. Or you could do as I used to for a long-time and use tuba-grip bandages, and say you fell over in the garage or at a park. So long as you come across as confident in your story people don't question for long. Unfortunately sh brings with it a need to put on a face and lie. Not everyone is able to cope with the truth. It will be a matter of finding those who best understand, respect, and can support. I've ditched a lot of friends and family due to them being so poor at this, whilst others were initially yet have grown tremendously (such as my mum and one of my best friends) to be as understanding and supportive as I need them to be. Others still may not be very close to you right now yet step up as amazing people and end up as your best friends. When explaining, try to find a quiet place and simply ask to chat to them about personal issues and their advice, and be as honest as you can, but play it by their reactions. Of course, the best advice is to chat with medical professionals too. All the best.
 
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I have no advice for now, while you live with people you don't want knowing about it while the scars are fresh.

For the long term, give those scars no power. I counted 31 scars on my left arm from shoulder to wrist, there may be more hidden under newer ones. I wear short sleeves and tank tops all the time and think nothing of them. I usually forget that they exist. When people ask I say they are self-injury scars, not with intent to shock, just saying the truth, because I will not lie about their origin. They aren't important enough to lie about.
 
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do it on a part of your body you dont show if you end up doing it again

most people dont even comment on your scars when they see them ive found, teachers and all sorts have seen mine, some people stare but at the end of the day who gives a shit what others think

as for your mum, i dont know
 
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most people dont even comment on your scars when they see them ive found, teachers and all sorts have seen mine, some people stare but at the end of the day who gives a shit what others think
You're right, I had not thought of that. My scars look nothing like cat scratches but people have asked if they are cat scratches because I have cats and deep down people want to believe that scars are accidental.
 
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I know the feeling I wear long sleeve all the time, I've had the looks like people who SH do it for the attention or something, which for me isn't the case at all. The ones on my legs it isn't a problem with really. On the arms, I've got maybe 100+ so I keep the long sleeves on just because it's easier at the moment, thinking maybe of more tattoos in the future to cover some X

Doesn't help maybe just my personal thoughts x
 
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I wore long sleeves for years to hide mine when I was younger, I’m in my thirties now and I’ve been open with my family and friends about them and don’t hide anymore.
Most people don’t ask about scarring I find, any that so it’s becuase they have been there, or they are younger and don’t understand.

One thing I used to do in the warmer weather was wear a tank top and then wear a light open blouse/shirt over the top to cover my arms.
I also work a lot of bracelets, sweat bands and arm warmers but that fitted my “asthetic” back then as I was “emo”/“punk rock” so it worked for me. May not work for all.

If it’s a small number of scars, that aren’t too well defined you can always try makeup?

By the sounds of it they are still pretty fresh, so hopefully will fade soon enough. You can try things like bio oil, vitamin e cream and other things (have a google) that will help reduce the appearance of scars

Hope this helps xx
 
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Olive oil works to fade scars for some reason. You could try applying that. There are also creams that you can use that do the same thing. Years ago I burned my wrist pulling something out of the oven. Looked like I tried to hurt myself. My mother in law said extra virgin olive oil and it worked. Maybe it would work for you to.
 
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I've heard that cocoa butter helps.

If you want to cover them forever instead of right now are you old enough for a tattoo? A woman was showing me a tattoo on her lower arm once, up close looking at the details I could see the scars underneath, but the half hour prior we had been talking the tattoo effectively covered them.
 
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Wear a tensor bandage or arm brace that's what I do. Pretend I'm injured in a way that is deemed acceptable by society
 
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