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Adult Separation Anxiety

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heygirlhey

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Hi ya’ll, I’m new here and simply wanted to post here to one, get this all out and two, to see if it was even a possibility someone else might know how I feel.

I am 23, lesbian and happily married to my wife. We have been married almost a year now and I have absolute terrible anxiety when she’s not around. All I can think about when she’s not is the next time I’ll be with her. It’s a constant thought floating in the back of my mind even when I’m trying so hard to stay busy and occupied so I am not wrapped up in the idea of being alone. When I am alone all I want to do is lay in bed and listen to guided meditations to try and relax.
It’s the worst when she has to leave for work or vice versus. I actually find myself crying after she leaves for the day and when I get up really early in the morning for my own job it’s like a sense of dread and anxiety just takes over. It sounds childish but all I want in those moments is for she to hold me. Climbing into bed at night with her is probably my favorite part of the day because she can snuggle up to me and we’re there together. It’s peaceful for me. I work 13 hour shifts 2-3 days in a row and the weekends I do work while she’s at home are torture for me. I don’t even care what we do when we’re together whether that’s chores or anything else that needs done but my world is complete and calm when I know we get time together more than just an hour.

I’ve talked with her about how I feel and I know she thinks it’s ridiculous because she’s a very independent person and doesn’t mind the time alone. She doesn’t mind to be away from me for work and tells me it’s just time to grow up and understand we have to work to pay bills and have our lives but I sometimes wish I could be unemployed and be able to be home more so I’m there whenever she gets there.

I’m sorry to go on and on but I feel alone and I just need some kind of advice about how to cope with this 😞

thanks all!
 
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Rlizzy123

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Hi there! I’m so sorry to hear you are going through this!
You obviously love her very much! That’s amazing.She obviously loves you too.
I have anxiety and I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and we have hardly ever spent time away from each other (other than being at work) I sometimes like my own company but sometimes I feel the way you feel. Because as soon as he leaves that’s when all the negative thoughts come creeping in, he usually distracts me from these thoughts.
I dont think your childish for feeling this way. And I doubt she thinks youre being ridiculous, I think you should maybe ask her to sit down and have a serious talk with her and tell her exactly how you are feeling (only if you are comfortable with this) I’m so sorry and I hope I’ve been able to be some help to you.
 
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