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adult separation anxiety and social anxiety

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hosker419

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Hi there,

I have been engaged to my partner for nearly a year now and i love her very much. I will never give up on her, however I am under a lot of strain at the moment and I hoped someone on here could help me.

My partner suffers from social anxiety disorder and also, i suspect, adult separation anxiety disorder (http://anxietypanichealth.com/reference/separation-anxiety-disorder-adult/)

she hates socialising with people and only does it because she feels she has to. she also freaks out if she has to talk to someone on the phone. the other day she was receiving harrassing calls from some company selling her insurance. I explained that she canceled her policy because she doesnt need it and the guy got very sarcastic with me and needed to speak to suzy to remove her number. so i told suzy to say "remove my number" and to hang up but she freaked out and wouldn't take the phone. shes goes almost child like tantrum and kicks and shouts and storms out. sometimes she will be really happy (almost hyper happy) but then she just switches off and goes silent. she wont respond to me holding her or talking to her... almost like she is in her own little world. she is undergoing tests for bipolar at the moment.

at the moment i can deal with all that. What i am having difficulty with is what i suspect is ASAD. when i go to work she sits at home and cries all day for not being with me. i can't do anything on my own because she gets upset. Today she was with family for easter and my family dont really do anything for easter so i went paintballing with some friends. at 8AM this morning i had to release myself from her grip and try and calm her down because she was almost choking on her tears because i was going out... i have to work because we have a flat and she gave up work because she couldnt take the anxiety... i am already 2 months behind with rent but i cant tell her because she will freak out... i am scared and i just dont know what to do. i try and stay strong for her but when i am on my own i cant sleep and i am stressing out myself :(

any help would be appreciated...

thanks in advance
 
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Hi hosker149
Welcome to the foroum well done for posting.
So sorry to hear whats going on i suffer with social anxiety and to name other things but i completly understand what she is going thorough.
I think you both need to go and see your GP's to get help for yourself and for your partner there are plently of therapies that can help with what you are both going through please go and see them if she struggles going to the doctor get her to write down some bullet points of how she is feeling and the same for you too and give it to your GP's and see what support they can give you both.
Sorry i cant advise much but the GP is the best port of call first.
I hope they can give you both the support you need.
take care kepe strong and keep talking
Katie
xx
 
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hosker419

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Thank you for your reply I really appreciate it

My partner has tried speaking to a GP. It doesn't feel like they want to make any particular effort in helping her. Just wanted to know if there is anything people have tried that makes them feel any better that might help Suzy.

Thanks again
 
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