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dreamzallday

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In peraonality chat under the heading...what have i done....i dodnt tell my mum what i have done. A week after reporting the carers allowence and my mum got a letter today saying her carers allowence has stopped. I pretended to be her and did it all online. What a mistake. Me and my partner now arguing cos im soo angry at myself. I dont no what to say to her as she is asking me whats happened and y has it canceled. I lie but feel worse. How the hell do j explain that one when she gos to jobcentre and rhy say " you canceled it yourself '. But she didnt i bloody did. Omfg. Soo lost and think i have ruined my relationship with my mum :D
 
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fallen

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Oh dear, sounds like you've got into a bit of a pickle! Could you just come clean with your mum and explain what happened? She may be annoyed but it doesn't mean that your relationship has to be ruined. :hug:
 
speckles

speckles

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Just say you saw a benefit person who told you it was fraud to continue with claiming in the current situation so you had to cancel it. She can't really argue with that since it is the truth, and it is not you fault is it. Say you didn't want her to get into any trouble, especially if they investigated and decided she was not your carer as you weren't living at home she would have to pay back money, so you are avoiding this.
 
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dreamzallday

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Hiya. Not been able to get online. Been in hospital. Had to have 18 stitches and glu on my arm. I just cudnt bear the stree with my mum. On a positive note my mum called the jobcentre today and they told her that carers has been canceled. She called me and i freaked oit bit it went ok. She wasnt mad with me and i told her what i have done to my arm. She was supportive. And ive spoke to my social worker x
 
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fallen

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Sorry about your arm but it sounds very positive with your mum! Must be a relief!
Goes to show that sometimes things don't turn out to be as bad as you think they are going to and fear can be a terrible hinderance.
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