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A topic for people who deal with loneliness

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ManDss

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The main reason I joined to this (and other forums) is to meet people who also deal with loneliness, but there isnt a specific place to talk about this.

I was thinking to make this post just for the people who deal with loneliness and want to meet others who also does.
 
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I also struggle with loneliness. I have no one but the parents of this world. I'm all alone.
 
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Hi @ManDss and @AnnN

Lots of members here suffer from loneliness and live in isolation. It makes such a difference to have friends who will listen and support you. This forum offers the opportunity to socialise in the ChillOut area - these are all the light hearted threads where members chat and get to know each other and it’s the best place to build relationships. Sometimes a tough day can be made better just by logging on and getting a virtual hug and some encouragement. If you jump in on threads like “What are you thinking right now” people will often respond to you immediately and engage in dialogue. At the same time, your posts allow us to get to know you - find out the important stuff like if you own a cat, prefer Marmite to marmalade or have trouble sleeping :)

I hope this place will give you the same fun and comfort that it has to me.

Big welcome to you both and look forward to chatting to you. :hug: X. :hug: X.
 
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Just putting this thread up again.

Clarification: this topic is for people who really strugles with lonelines, not for people who "just feel lonely some times".
 
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I am all alone in the world. I am 44 and have never been in a relationship. It hurts to be alone.
 
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I'm lonely almost always. Even around people who "care".
I sometimes wonder if it's because I'm super needy. Or if it was how I was raised- told that nobody would love me. Always made to feel like I was out of place and everything I did was wrong.
Maybe some need wasn't met as a kid.....?
But then, I'm also an introvert and value my quiet alone time.
And another layer is I avoid the crap out of people anyways. People aren't safe.
I've tried a few times to relate to people and make friends but...... I have zero use for small talk and I just end up rambling about my kids too much, then go home and feel stupid for even thinking I could actually connect to another human being.
I hate being around people but frik I'm lonely as hell. Have been my whole life so I don't know why it even still bothers me.
Tired of it though. Thinking about it makes me depressed.
Hoping this forum makes me feel less alone. *shrugs*
 
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Hope u can meet some people here.

Loneliness really k'lls me. All days alone, no one to go out, no one to chat. Its really depressing.
yep. I have two kids. they sometimes interrupt it.
I live with some family because i cant work and they're useless as a form of emotional support so i mostly get stuck in my own head all day.
I cant really go out either and have no real hobbies. Or shareable hobbies because I'm scared of pretty much everything.

it sucks. It sucks big time.
My tv is usually always on when kids aren't here - I don't really watch it, I think just the background noise of other people talking helps me feel less lonely.

God, that does sound super depressing.
Hang in there @ManDss

my slogan of hope is "all things change"
i dunno
 
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I think it's somewhat healthy for me to admit, I saw this thread not long after joining but didn't feel comfortable posting on it. I felt like maybe i was intruding or that I had nothing to offer.

Now, I think I'd like to at least chime in. Progress, yay?

My sense of being lonely is fickle at times, and often in absolute conflict with what I might want on any given day. It's not a sense of "oh, i just feel lonely" as ManDss rightly pointed out previously. While i have family and a few people close at hand, this does nothing to alleviate my sense of genuinely being alone in the world. I've been in crowded rooms, of my own volition, and still felt utterly alone. It's not the presence of others that is usually of concern, but more that I feel isolated from others in general.

This extends to other parts of my life. I've gone through 2 divorces, and while my first marriage came about as a result of my ex using me as a way to get away from her family, my second (and rather recent) divorce was from someone i truly loved and was in a relationship with for almost 10 years. I truly felt like i wasn't alone....until one day, I absolutely was. I became too much of a burden, and perhaps rightly so, I was shown the door. I don't blame her really, but it simply drove home the simple and obvious truth that no one loves me, and likely never will.

At this point, I feel like I'll always be alone. No one is interested in being with someone who has all the problems I have (in total, not just mental/emotional). I completely feel like i'll be unwanted and unloved for whatever remains of this life, and that i'll simply pass away with none long mourning my passing. On the uncommon occurrence that I venture outside these days, I see happy couples around and it just reinforces that idea even more.

In summation, being lonely is....well, let's call it what it is. It's a soul crushing, pain inducing forced march through a life i sometimes debate is worth continuing. But let's be honest...no one buys a broken toaster, no matter how shiny and nice it once was. Maybe that's myopic, or even wrong, but that doesn't make it hurt any less.
 
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Story of my life. I'm always lonely. I live alone. Both my parents are deceased. I'm not married. No kids. No boyfriend. Very little friends. And the only relatives I have is my sister and grandma. I have 2nd cousins but they have their own families so I don't speak to them. It's hard
 
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I live alone and have done for some time. I sometimes wish that I did not live alone, but I do not think I am lonely. I think feeling lonely can come about for many reasons, such as longing for perfection, resentment to others who you, rightly or wrongly, blame for being alone, or just being fearful of it. Also, the feeling of loneliness can be heightened by misguided others who say that you must be lonely.
 
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im quite lonely myself too but i have some advice for you.....im a member of a mental health club......these are places where mentally ill folk can go to participate in activities such as art creative writing yoga, group therapy personal development ti name but a few activities, or else you can just drop in for a coffee.....in thes e plaes you will mewet nice humble compassionate people who understand whats it like.....look in to it, ask your mental health team or else just google it
 
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ManDss

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I think feeling lonely can come about for many reasons, such as longing for perfection, resentment to others who you, rightly or wrongly, blame for being alone, or just being fearful of it. Also, the feeling of loneliness can be heightened by misguided others who say that you must be lonely.
That could be a case for some people, but its not for every people who feal lonely.

If you want talk or be with other person, and you just dont have other person to talk or be around, then loneliness appear. It doesnt matter anything else.

Sure what you said could apply to some people. Just want to say its not for every people who feel loneliness.
 
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Hope u can meet some people here.

Loneliness really k'lls me. All days alone, no one to go out, no one to chat. Its really depressing.
I am the same and I'm regressing mentally because of this. But I only feel the pain rarly because I stay busy.
 
OddballOut

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But I only feel the pain rarly because I stay busy.
I try to do this too- keeping busy. Kids help with the keeping busy. But at night, or when I want to share something funny stupid/cool and then realize I have nobody to tell, to share with. Or nobody who would understand, or wants to hear....... 😞
 
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