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9yrs no self harming and now im doun it again

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Pr1ncess85

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I have gone 9yrs without self harming with self control but all of a sudden i have started again i dont do it to harm myslf i do it to release hurt and anger. Its all started because my partner just seems to never want to spend anytime with me always wants to be out other than be with me (with his brother) not a masSive deal but we argue n argue n now my fustration turning to harming myself it isn’t bad just light It isnt just my partner where i get fustrated its just work my boy whos got adhd and also having no family or friends. Im scared to go the docs for help because im scared childrens services will say i am mentally unsrable n take my boy theyve tried it before😭😭😭
 
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Hi there and welcome princess. Wow you’ve done really good going for nine years with no SH. It shows you can do it. Have you been taught distraction techniques when the urge comes across you. There ere several things that you could l find that holing ice cubes in my hand or rubbing them up my arm helps. Some say wear a rubber band on your wrist and snap it or breathing techniques. I’m sure as more come on the forum they’ll be able to advise you.
Also your boy having ADHD cant make it any easier for you. Does he take medication or have therapy cos there is help out there. Don’t worry about the services if you ask for help it shows a mature and sensible attitude. I’m schitzoaffective and bought up my children successfully. So can you
 
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Pr1ncess85

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Hi there and welcome princess. Wow you’ve done really good going for nine years with no SH. It shows you can do it. Have you been taught distraction techniques when the urge comes across you. There ere several things that you could l find that holing ice cubes in my hand or rubbing them up my arm helps. Some say wear a rubber band on your wrist and snap it or breathing techniques. I’m sure as more come on the forum they’ll be able to advise you.
Also your boy having ADHD cant make it any easier for you. Does he take medication or have therapy cos there is help out there. Don’t worry about the services if you ask for help it shows a mature and sensible attitude. I’m schitzoaffective and bought up my children successfully. So can you
I have had authorities involved previous and they have always said if i ever self harm again they would look to place my boy for adoption they had a privert pysc report done and have told me i have borderline personality disorder ( i know i havent as the doctors have had one done and have told me i have servere anxiety and depression) its a really difficult one as when i asked for help last time they told me i couldnt cope i wasnt fit to have my two eldest boys ect .... And removed them. My boy doesnt have medication atm due to school has calmed him down and hes been doin lots of 1 to 1 work with school senco. I know i will get bk to where i was. I will try the technics you suggested tho thank you any advice i am truely greatfull for
 
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