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      Hi there, was wondering if anyone else can relate to this or has ever felt like this.

      So basically, I always feel extremely upset and sad whenever my boyfriend leaves, no matter how much time we’ve spent together. Obviously I enjoy spending time with him and I’m always so happy when we’re together but as soon as he leaves, I can just crash and feel so sad. Sometimes as soon as he says he’s got to leave, I can start feeling teary, although I manage to hold it together until he leaves.

      I feel really pathetic that I’m feeling this way, we’ve only been together about 4 months and it’s not like we don’t see each other much, it’s normally about 4 days at the most before I see him again, so it seems silly that I get so sad when he goes!

      I do try and see friends and do other things when I know I’m not going to see him, I’m aware that I shouldn’t be too dependent on him, but sometimes that can be a struggle!

      Does anyone else ever get like this and is it normal? I mean, I know it’s normal to miss your boyfriend, I guess, but to feel like crying just because he’s gone home and I’ve spent about 18 hours with him???*♀️
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      Quote Originally Posted by KatieIsMe_x3 View Post
      Hi there, was wondering if anyone else can relate to this or has ever felt like this.

      So basically, I always feel extremely upset and sad whenever my boyfriend leaves, no matter how much time we’ve spent together. Obviously I enjoy spending time with him and I’m always so happy when we’re together but as soon as he leaves, I can just crash and feel so sad. Sometimes as soon as he says he’s got to leave, I can start feeling teary, although I manage to hold it together until he leaves.

      I feel really pathetic that I’m feeling this way, we’ve only been together about 4 months and it’s not like we don’t see each other much, it’s normally about 4 days at the most before I see him again, so it seems silly that I get so sad when he goes!

      I do try and see friends and do other things when I know I’m not going to see him, I’m aware that I shouldn’t be too dependent on him, but sometimes that can be a struggle!

      Does anyone else ever get like this and is it normal? I mean, I know it’s normal to miss your boyfriend, I guess, but to feel like crying just because he’s gone home and I’ve spent about 18 hours with him???*♀️
      Hello Katie.
      It is so hard when someone you really care about and is your soulmate has to be away from you for a while , he is away for 4 days at a time , do you still talk on the phone or text him ?

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      Yes, we do talk everyday, not all day obviously because of work and life etc. But I always have contact with him at least once a day. When he leaves, he always messages to tell me he’s home and that he had a great time etc.

      It would make more sense for me to feel so sad if he was away for really long periods of time or if we didn’t talk in between, but that’s not the case for us!?

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      Quote Originally Posted by KatieIsMe_x3 View Post
      Yes, we do talk everyday, not all day obviously because of work and life etc. But I always have contact with him at least once a day. When he leaves, he always messages to tell me he’s home and that he had a great time etc.

      It would make more sense for me to feel so sad if he was away for really long periods of time or if we didn’t talk in between, but that’s not the case for us!?
      Hello Katie.

      I think the relationship you have together is very special and it is ok to feel this way , you really miss him when he is not with you and that means you have true love.

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      danger, Will Robinson. over time he will feel suffocated and will seek more freedom from you.
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      Does your boyfriend know you have these feelings? If so, how does he feel about it? It might be a good idea to focus your attention on other things (don't put all your eggs in one basket as they say). Being dependent on another person for all your happiness isn't always healthy. Eventually he may resent you.

      Also, the best relationships happen when both people are happy, emotionally healthy, interesting people who can bring all their assets into the relationship. If one person is too dependent it will eventually choke the life out of the relationship.

      Also, guys like a challenge. They like when a girl is a little hard to get. Find an exciting new hobby or interest. When you see him the next time you can tell him about it. Don't make him feel like he has to compete with the hobby for your attention, but share what you've learned, etc. It will add a new dimension to your relationship.
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      Hi starrynite I haven’t explained to my boyfriend how I feel, mainly cause it just seems a bit silly! I do suffer from quite bad relationship anxiety, am very insecure and can become very worried and anxious over my relationship quite easily. I am working on this though, as like you say, no boyfriend wants to have a clingy girlfriend or have to constantly reassure them. I presume feeling upset and sad when he leaves is all just part of my insecurities and relationship anxiety, although I am trying to not be too dependent on him and try to do stuff with friends and family too.
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      Regarding your relationship anxiety, maybe it would help to try and figure out why you're like that. I heard one time, "Knowledge is Power." I read the book "The Lies We Believe" by Dr. Chris Thirmin. It really helped me grow as a person and to see why I was the way I was.
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      Hi starrynite I haven’t explained to my boyfriend how I feel, mainly cause it just seems a bit silly! I do suffer from quite bad relationship anxiety, am very insecure and can become very worried and anxious over my relationship quite easily. I am working on this though, as like you say, no boyfriend wants to have a clingy girlfriend or have to constantly reassure them. I presume feeling upset and sad when he leaves is all just part of my insecurities and relationship anxiety, although I am trying to not be too dependent on him and try to do stuff with friends and family too.
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      I feel like this too, my boyfriend's the main part of my happiness. I only see him once a week which isn't really healthy. You're not alone on this Katie

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      Quote Originally Posted by KatieIsMe_x3 View Post
      Hi there, was wondering if anyone else can relate to this or has ever felt like this.

      So basically, I always feel extremely upset and sad whenever my boyfriend leaves, no matter how much time weíve spent together. Obviously I enjoy spending time with him and Iím always so happy when weíre together but as soon as he leaves, I can just crash and feel so sad. Sometimes as soon as he says heís got to leave, I can start feeling teary, although I manage to hold it together until he leaves.

      I feel really pathetic that Iím feeling this way, weíve only been together about 4 months and itís not like we donít see each other much, itís normally about 4 days at the most before I see him again, so it seems silly that I get so sad when he goes!

      I do try and see friends and do other things when I know Iím not going to see him, Iím aware that I shouldnít be too dependent on him, but sometimes that can be a struggle!

      Does anyone else ever get like this and is it normal? I mean, I know itís normal to miss your boyfriend, I guess, but to feel like crying just because heís gone home and Iíve spent about 18 hours with him???*♀️

      I go through the same thing..My boyfriend and I live together.We both work from home together and do basically everything together.I am always depressed,sad or unmotivated when he has to go out of town without me.I hate feeling like this and itís good to know that I am not alone.I have felt like this in past relationships as well.We probably just get very attached easily.How was your relationships with your parents growing up?

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