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  1. Mr.NiceGuy

    I'm done, if you can listen to me word for word in thought then I'll do it back to you for a while

    I'm done, if you can listen to me word for word in thought then I'll do it back to you for a while elastic may amplify silence better then paper or plastic which are commonly used as diaphragms. paper and plastic are weaker then elastic at catching soft sounds and may be heavily distorted when...
  2. M

    Advice please x

    Hi this is the first forum I've been on. I've been advised to do it for a long time but I've always put it off. I've been diagnosed with bpd, I'm 26 and a single mother. It's come to the point now where i can't bare the shouting. I feel like the worlds most evil mother I can suddenly switch...
  3. R

    Here it comes again

    i feel it coming on, I'm being told to SH, agitated beyond belief. The only way was to harm, want to really hurt now and afraid as I'm on my own. Scared to phone Cmht and I don't want to be advised to use an elastic band on my wrist. Don't know why I'm posting this as nothing stops me, I'm so...
  4. R

    Self harm urges, help me !

    Don't know what to do, I can't control these urges - tried the usual, ice cubes, elastic bands. Feel like I'm being made to hurt myself, can barely catch a breath this is so painful aaaah I'm sick of this. Too scared to phone Cmht as want to be at home
  5. C

    Coping With Flashbacks

    Ideas for coping with flashbacks Tell yourself you are having a flashback and that it is ok and very normal in people who were traumatised as children (or as adults). Remind yourself that the worst is over – it happened in the past, but it is not happening now. The “child” inside you who...
  6. D

    Getting out of hand

    I have now SHed 45 times in less than 3 days. None of the distractions like using a elastic band works. I am seeing a psychiatrist again tomorrow, but I don't see how that is going to help.