Can emotions be a bad thing?

[tigerfish]

life has been s*** for a while now, with one thing and another! My emotions are all over the place since losing one of my best mates! Even some programmes on tv really get to me! its not that interesting, but tonight i had a curry, and guess what?? it upset me! Adam's favourite! i feel totally useless at the moment and very embarressed by being such a mess! i need a good kick up the bum really!! i used to cry eating curries with Adam cos they were so bloody spicey, used to make my nose run! Everything i do at the moment reminds me of Adam and i don't know how to stop everything being so painful! What a wimp?

[Susanna]

((((Tigerfish))))

I do think sometimes I would be better off with no emotions! I have Borderline PD, plus depression and anxiety, so most of the emotions I experience are not that pleasant!! But I think life with no emotions would be unbearably dull and colorless, so....that's a hard question!

I do know how hard it is to lose someone you love. It would be great to be able just to "switch off" the negative emotions and only feel the joy and peace and happiness, but I don't think it works like that, for anyone. (If it did I'd be the first to sign up, lol!)

I'm truly sorry for the pain you're in. Feeling sad and tearful are normal in a situation like this. All I can say is, believe it or not, it will get better. Healing takes time and it isn't easy, but it does happen! Meanwhile please be good to yourself, treat yourself kindly and gently and remember that it's okay to cry!! I wish I could be there to give you a hug and a shoulder to cry on!

And you are NOT a wimp! You're having a perfectly normal reaction to a loss, please don't beat yourself up over it, we've all been there and we understand!

[Hellen]

I can honestly say that having no emotions is much better than feeling anything at all.I already talked about my diagnosis in here but my post was deleted,I guess it was too much for them to handle,I don't know.The truth is that this is a mental health forum and ALL mental health issues should be discussed here,nevermind,I'm not here to talk about that.Going back to the emotions,I haven't felt any real emotion in years...I used to,when I was a child,I felt sadness because I was rejected,I felt scared because I was beaten daily,I was also sexually abused and that made me feel desperate and alone because I had no one to turn to,that turned me into a cold person,I can honestly say I don't feel anything at all right now,things don't affect me anymore...Answering to your question,yes,emotions are a bad thing,emotions ruin your life,emotions ruined my childhood and my early teens,really bad emotions.I feel better with myself right now despise all the bullshit I get from other people.I no longer worry about little meaningless things,to be honest all seems meaningless now and I'm not afraid anymore,I'm free.

[rebecca15]

HI, i suffer with severe depression and anxiety. Since this i have not felt any emotions at all, i can't feel happy, can't cry, just feel completely numb. i can relate to you saying thatyou no longer worry about meaningless things, everything seems meaningless to me too. yes everything seems black and dull, can't remember what normal feels like or how to get it back. im just in a haze all the time where nothing matters. im glad you feel free and that is an excellent way pf putting it. being free of emotions does sort of make me feel free!!!

[Hellen]

HI, i suffer with severe depression and anxiety. Since this i have not felt any emotions at all, i can't feel happy, can't cry, just feel completely numb. i can relate to you saying thatyou no longer worry about meaningless things, everything seems meaningless to me too. yes everything seems black and dull, can't remember what normal feels like or how to get it back. im just in a haze all the time where nothing matters. im glad you feel free and that is an excellent way pf putting it. being free of emotions does sort of make me feel free!!!

I don't suffer from depression,I don't think I ever have.I was diagnosed with Anti-Social Personality Disorder and that's what creates the lack of empathy or of feeling,whatever you want to call it...I feel way better with myself now.

[tigerfish]

where did you find the off switch!!

[Hellen]

where did you find the off switch!!

Many years of torture,abuse and suffering did the work.

[tigerfish]

That would do it, lol! you sound like you've been through hell! sending you hugs! im sorry if ive bugged you!!

[Hellen]

That would do it, lol! you sound like you've been through hell! sending you hugs! im sorry if ive bugged you!!

You haven't bugged me,it doesn't affect me anymore.

[Mr. Flibble]

I can honestly say that having no emotions is much better than feeling anything at all.I already talked about my diagnosis in here but my post was deleted,I guess it was too much for them to handle,I don't know.The truth is that this is a mental health forum and ALL mental health issues should be discussed here,nevermind,I'm not here to talk about that.Going back to the emotions,I haven't felt any real emotion in years...I used to,when I was a child,I felt sadness because I was rejected,I felt scared because I was beaten daily,I was also sexually abused and that made me feel desperate and alone because I had no one to turn to,that turned me into a cold person,I can honestly say I don't feel anything at all right now,things don't affect me anymore...Answering to your question,yes,emotions are a bad thing,emotions ruin your life,emotions ruined my childhood and my early teens,really bad emotions.I feel better with myself right now despise all the bullshit I get from other people.I no longer worry about little meaningless things,to be honest all seems meaningless now and I'm not afraid anymore,I'm free.

I would probably describe myself as being halfway to where you are. I do have emotions buy dont love and probably never will. Bacically this came from attachment/rejection issues in early childhood whereupon some genius decided that the anwer to attachment issues was to take me away from my family and stick me in a mental hospital for 3 months. I was 7 years old at the time. I also have no emotional conception of "family". I feel the same about them as I do of others..i.e my opinions of and any feelings for family members are based on how I get on with them without any "family" emotional overlay.

I am fond of my pets though and do have some feelings for my friends...wouldnt go so far as to call any of it love, though.