Born to Lose

[0RRHH1]

Is there such a thing as fate? Are some people just meant to succeed while others fail. Not everyone can be a winner.

We have all seen it, those people who just swan through life with everything falling in their lap with virtually no effort, then there's the others who seem to have to work and work and work themselves into the ground to get nowhere. Don't lie to me, you have seen it, we all have.

The question is when do you give up? How many times do you have to be put on your arse before you say i can't be bothered to get up again, i wasn't meant to win, let something mug take my place.

I'm tired of people telling me to dust myself down and get on with it, i'm done with getting on with it. I tried my best i really did, nobody worked harder to make their dreams come true than i did. It didn't work, it wasn't meant to be. It's alright people telling you to get up and get on with it but when it's you that's picking yourself up off the floor for the umpteenth time at some point you feel entitled to say fuck off, i tried, i've had enough and i ain't trying again.

I tried everything i could to make a career but failed, i showered people with love but somehow still managed to lose them somewhere. I think i tried and nobody should blame me or call me a loser if i say i've had enough i'll just reach for my works.

Whoever said the drugs don't work was lying. Born to lose, i'll see you in hell.

[22vince22]

Good morning Orr : )

Good to read your post since once again I could see myself in there.

My 'method' is that each day when I get up I have already given up fighting . In other words, I never let the sun go down at dusk before I acknowledge to myself:-

"It's not worth it".

Yes, virtually ever day there can be one conflict or another comes my way and, in some instances, a person can really get under my skin. That's when I have to fall back on some of the really good reading material I have, among other things, to re-assure me and re-align me in the right direction.

The first step I take is acknowledging I cannot negotiate life using my own Will. Once I have repeatedly done this at the same time I become more receptive to ideas that are much more proven to give me a peaceful passage in life.

To be sure, there are lots of charlatans in life and so I have had to become selective with just what I put into and mind. For instance, I don't have a TV. That said, I have loads of brilliant movies and lots upon lots of good reading and music.

The way I see it is to recognise from my own history that my own Will is virtually useless. Following a better recipie for the day other than the designs I would strive for has been a fruitful and intersting experience.

Re-defining success is so important. For what the TV and newspapers tell us is a 'success' is very-often contrived to make us strive and strive and strive. And that will cause us to hate ourselves and think that we don't measure up. That's not for me !

Have a good day Orr. Vince

[Pammy]

I have been looking for someone to relate to all night and I found this site. I can totally understand your feelings and outlook. I don't feel I stand a chance of ever getting a job or being able to support myself. I have bipolar and I self medicate. I am 51 Years old and have never been able to hold down a job.I am a disappointment to my family and children. Luckily my husband has his own issues that help my issues seem tolerable. I am so glad I read your post, Sometimes acceptance sucks. I feel lonely and isolated. This to shall pass.. Take care

[0RRHH1]

Thank you for those pertinent insights as always Vince.

I think i have redefined success, i too refused to be judged a success or failure by what society demands or expects. I long ago gave up worrying about what society expected of me. I just get defeated because i can't seem to even find a measure of success even by my own standards. Some things i can fail at and shrug my shoulders but other things i can't accept. If i fail myself then so be it, if i fail others who mean a lot to me then i can't accept it so readily and normal or accepted realignment practices fail for me. Right now i'm in the pit and i can't be bothered to climb out. I just haven't got the fight left. I go through the motions of living but nothing seems to matter to me anymore, i've ceased caring.

"Shall we put out the light, and then put out the light."

[Sabrooksc]

Why lose? It sucks, it sucks for me too. You'll never be where you want to be like this.

[0RRHH1]

Why lose? It sucks, it sucks for me too. You'll never be where you want to be like this.

That was rather the point of the post. I've climbed hurdle after hurdle. I've fought battle after battle. Eventually you get worn out and wonder why you're bothering. I didn't give up at the first sign of a set back. I've fought my entire life.

[bert tomato]

I think this whole concept of losing and winning is to provide motivation?

After all we would classify 'Jesus Christ' as a loser if he was alive in our times today. However, many people consider him to be the Son of God.

I think we must be careful. This battle goes on now still.