awkward...

[ABsea]

I'll just get this over with... ugh

Today is our 4year anniversary and I was just curiouse..
Is it weird that he watches porn on this day? And my birthday? And valentines day? Like I just assume these days would be.. I dunno...

[Foxjo]

hi. its a tricky one that.
me and my previous partner would watch together.
that was ok.

Im with my husband now (different guy) (together 8 years) watches it on his own, is obsessed with it.
that affects me emotionally.

i think it all depends on how you have discussed this together?

[ABsea]

To be honest it pisses me off.
I feel as if he wants nothing to do with me. I want these days to be special but it doesn't seem like he feels the same.
I usually end up making snarky comments at him then I feel even worse.
I've tried talkin to him but theres no point to it

[Foxjo]

my husband says its nothing to do with our relationship. but i dont see it like that.
we are not doing it together so there must be a problem??
i cant get my head around it.

[ABsea]

Okk so I'm not the only one!
I'm in the exact same boat as you.
Its pretty annoying and I've sort of started to resent him for it.
Also, it doesn't help that I read somewhere that people who watch a lot of it, grow increasingly less attracted to their partner. Yay my relationshit is ruined what now

[Foxjo]

not that its ruined ABSea
i just wonder why hes doing it?
have you asked him outright why?
mine says hes a man and its stress release. that annoys me. why cant he do it with me? i personally feel emotionally crushed by him doing it.

[ABsea]

Yea I know.. mine says the same thing.
Then I get pissed and straight out say he'd rather do that than be with me??
Its really hurtful and I've told him that.. I dont get it.. he says I never want to wich is bs cause it feels like I'm the only one ever trying. I hate feeling like the desperate one but seriously wtf were 20 we should be all over eachother but i feel so unwanted it disgusts me. Doesn't feel right

[Foxjo]

i know how you feel, you should feel wanted.
its natural to feel needed and wanted.
men dont think like we do.
its a shame men arent on the same wave length.
i wish i knew what the answer was

[ABsea]

Hmm there never seems to be an answer to these things. Its obviously his "problem" not mine. Maybe he's too young to understand that we're in a relationship..? Things we do affect eachother? I've been thinking about leaving him for a while now but i keep hoping things will get better. Maybe i try too hard to be sexy or whatever it is guys like. I definitely do more for him than he does for me..

[Foxjo]

a relationship has to have benefit for both of you.
its a tough decision whether you stay together, think about whats vest for you emotionally. breaking up can cause awful distress on you. can you cope with that right now?
worried you might make a bad situation worse?