Barbers/hairdressers

[firemonkee]

Who has a fear of going to them? Last time i had a haircut was 10 months ago when my youngest step daughter cut my hair at my flat.
I find the whole thought of making small talk while having my hair washed and cut intimidating because i find small talk and sustaining conversations difficult and am scared of saying something stupid and or embarrassing.
Then there is the issue of explaining how i want my hair cut.I am just useless at visualising and then describing something like that to someone else.
Then,last but not least,there is the issue of being amongst strangers,especially if the place is busy and my paranoia that people can pick up subtle signs that i am not quite right/together.

[Sweetie]

Yup, im a girl and girls love to get their hair done.......not me...

But im lucky, i have a friend, two actully who are hairdressers, and they come up to my house and cut it for me. Its still a veeeeeerrrry difficult thing to have done, but its MUCH better than having to go the dreaded hairdressers.
Any appointment thingy unsettles me. Doctors, dentists, hairdressers etc etc etc, they are all the same for me. But i have an extra pressure, coz i suffer from blushing, the dentist and hairdressers are not good, as focus is on the facial/head area. The way you feel paro about your signs being picked up, thats how i feel too. Mine can be picked up in a instint when i blush and that makes this whole thing a nightmare for me... As well, with the heat that are in hairdressers does not help my situation...

Shit one init...

Sorry no advice or anything, but know the feeling.

[sallyG]

i hate going to the hairdressers too..but love it once my hair is cut.I dont do small talk..my hairdressers tries really hard with me but i just cant make small talk..i get embarrassed..think i have nothing of any value to talk about and my paranoia is at an all time high.
I feel for you firemonkee...its hard

[firemonkee]

think i have nothing of any value to talk about and my paranoia is at an all time high.
I feel for you firemonkee...its hard

I don't do anything that's worth talking about.Basically i eat/drink/defecate and urinate/go out shopping occasionally/spend most of my time online/and sleep.

[sallyG]

I don't do anything that's worth talking about.Basically i eat/drink/defecate and urinate/go out shopping occasionally/spend most of my time online/and sleep

thats the story of my life too...oh and i read books and listen to classical music on my headphones.(helps with the voices).

[supersweep]

I dread going to the hairdressers, i don't feel i have anything interesting to say.
So when they start asking about me i get all paranoid and start
asking them about themselves.

[firemonkee]

I don't do anything that's worth talking about.Basically i eat/drink/defecate and urinate/go out shopping occasionally/spend most of my time online/and sleep

thats the story of my life too...oh and i read books and listen to classical music on my headphones.(helps with the voices).

I used to be an avid and eclectic reader in my teens but have read little since becoming ill,apart from when my late wife was well(before the vascular dementia) and i would read her what they call romantic novels/'sagas' at bedtime.
When i first was ill concentration was a big problem and also i had my parents/psychiatric staff telling me i would tax my brain if i read too much.

[sallyG]

When i first was ill concentration was a big problem and also i had my parents/psychiatric staff telling me i would tax my brain if i read too much.

i find concentration difficult at times even now...i can go weeks without reading and then all of a sudden get through a book in a day..it all depends on how i feel.Ive never heard that reading can tax ones brain...i have however been told its not healthy to read too much...that i should get out more and join the world...no thanks..i dont like the world..would rather stay indoors and read.

[amathus]

I decided to try a new hairdressers last week....it was sheer murder....
I was mostly silent and felt awkward and embarrassed.
Fortunately they didn't push me to talk too much...I don't do small talk either
until I feel completely confident.
I always feel like a fish out of water, and can't wait to get out of there, but
I like my hair to look presentable, so I put myself through the ordeal!

qf.

[skyblue]

I can't even remember the last time I went to the hairdressers, it must have been about 5-6yrs ago when I decided to get my hair chopped off short-short. Before that, I used to often go to the Afro-Caribbean hairdressers - My hair's not Afro but it's very thick & so they used to tidy it up for me designing it into plaits. I used to enjoy getting my hair done there, it was like a front living room for friends to meet up for tea parties sharing Jerk Chicken.

I haven't a fear of hairdressers, I'm just lazy with my hair, plus I prefer the natural {dragged through a bush side ways} look.