Hurt in my previous job

[bert tomato]

I was hurt in my previous job..

I had a bad romance with a senior manager.

I was made redundant when I believe I was doing a very good job - and they didnt follow procedures..

I did phone up a lawyer but you have to claim 3 months after leaving so it was late for me.

It did affect me a lot and caused me a lot of pain so I do bear a lot of resentment.

However if I look at myself rationally now:
1. I am in physically good shape, nice and healthy.
2. Mentally - I am trying to med free. (My brain had already been mashed)
3. I have gained some great new skills in my new job (it just doesnt pay as well)
4. I have moved to a new area which I really love.

So... I can forget the bad romance.

The redundancy was unfair - and I would like compensation, but I am not sure if it is worth it now. What do you think?

[rain and roses]

i think its really up to you. if you want to be compensated for unfair treatment then that is your right and good for you. but if you dont want the hassle and just want to stay quite happy now then thats cool too i think. not really much of an opinion really, just think its up to you xx

[bert tomato]

I dont really want the hassle. But they way they treated me was horrible. Even the woman turned against me at the end. It was as if one day I was really popular, everyone liked me, this woman was in love with me. Now nobody talks to me from there apart from one person. It hurt me a lot, and I am still not sure what I did wrong. I would like compensation, but couldnt face going to court about it. So I will just move on and rebuild..

[rain and roses]

its horrible you were treated like that, it is unfair and sad that everyone was so horrid to you but maybe going to court would just open that all up again so i think moving on might be better in the long run, that way you avoid being hurt by them again if you see what i mean

[bert tomato]

thanks.....................

[Boris]

If it`s a smallish business, you may well find that they will get people to make statements backing up their management (this happened to my sister). Unless you can prove procedures weren`t followed you`re unlikely to come out on top. If you can get someone who is currently working there, or was working there, and left on good terms to back your claims, you might have a good chance. Like I said though, if the business is a small one they may well play every nasty trick in the book to get them off, and will probably not think twice about dragging your character through the mud, even if it means resorting to blatant lies. If they can get employees to sign statements, you`d be amazed at the blatant lies they can come up with. One more thing, it is said you have to be employed in a place for over a year before you have any real rights. ACAS will give you up to the minute free, confidential and impartial advice as to where you stand, should you wish to take up the fight. Hope this is of some help to you :-)