come to the forums for support, my mum was diagnosed with schizophrenia 24 years ago and has to have medication, monthly injections for life.
she can be good some days but worries about everything and i mean everything.
the bad moods are usually on a weekly basis and i'm finding it hard to deal with. i myself left an emotionally and physically abusive partner six months ago - after 17 years. they never wanted me to have anything do do with my mum and they were moody all the time, it was like treading on eggshells. Ive always been really close to my mum to try and support her and he never understood why I spent so much time with her.
i have met someone else recently who treats me like a queen and thinks the world of my mum. he lives quite a distance away so only visits once a fortnight. when he has been down, we include my mum in our plans, ie if we go for a meal she is welcome etc.
when my mum went off on one yesterday, mainly down to financial worries, she started saying my new friend is always taking over and she feels like an outsider and she hates coming to my house when he's staying.
this is totally ludicrous as he never makes her feel unwelcome. so yesterday she ended up staying in bed all day and i phoned her and she barely had two words to say apart from she's still worried about money and cant focus on anything else and that i should just worry about my weekend away with my new partner as i wont be bothered about her then etc etc.
im finding it hard to deal with as no amount of reassurance seems to work - i feel like retailiating sometimes when she says bad things to me but i don't. she found out my friend was coming down to stay 3 days instead of 2 and had a go at me about that saying that i wont want her now ive got him. in fact he was coming for an extra day to surprise my mum and do a few diy jobs at her house.
why do i always feel like crap and in the wrong? i'm not right with him now because she has made me feel like she resents him and it hurts me. she's fine with him when he's down here and then has all these digs at me when she gets in these moods.
does anyone else have experience of this sort of thing? how do you cope?